How many friends do you have?

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That is well said, saffron.

1 friend (I share a house with him)
3 sort-of friends (I don't see them anymore as we went to different universities and I don't know if they've replaced me with other new friends now)
No friends at my university

4 Friends who I rarely/never see in-person anymore since we all live so far apart nowadays, so I talk to them online.

0 acquaintances.

No boyfriend or girlfriend.

None. Zero.

I used to not care, but lately it is driving me crazy.

Zero.

Online I have about 5, but they get sick of me quickly.
In real life I have three or four good friends who I know have my back, and a few more acquaintances who don't talk to me outside of school. It gets pretty lonely, but I have been able to deal with it so far.

None because I don't want any. I'm too committed professionally and academically to even bother. Also, a bit obsessed with food and fitness/wellness.

Wife is best friend of course
two good friends I met thru my wife
lots of casual friends like people who we like to have over to the house or go out to dinner with.

Having an NT wife helps a lot because she keeps me social.

Also I play dungeons and dragons and believe it or not that is very social. both of my groups spend about a half hour talking before we even start gaming.

I had alot of friends and internet-friends until i was 17. Then something happend. I lost my social skills and started to get ugly. Not had a friend (offline and online) for 9 years now. And i dont think will ever get any. I am too strange and ugly.

All depends on the definition of friend. Do I have someone that would help me no matter what that is not family? Maybe 1, and they are 45 years older than me, nobody my age. I know a few people who only call me when they need or want something, not to hang out. I don't ask for help from anyone, I have nobody to confide in, no girlfriend, nobody even on this site. Pretty lonely.

I watch t.v. Shows like the Big Bang theory and others and really envy the characters with their small group of close friends, mutual interests, etc. I can only dream.

Currently, I have too many "acquaintances" but not enough real, actual friends.

I have outdoors hobbies, activities and a special interest that have caused me to run into a loose group of the same people who also share these interests and are part of the community.

Over time all these people have become "stop to chat briefly" friends but they're not friends in the true sense. We have one thing in common but aside from that, we're all very different people with nothing in common, hence nothing develops into more of a friendship.

I'm fine with that.

For confiding in someone, I do have a friend I email now because I moved very far away. We are still emotionally close but of course now can't spend time together.

I need to count. Ummm Zero

Same here. If you went by true friends, I'd have one, but if you counted the people as "close companions", that number would go up by four or so. And if you counted the people I get along with well, you'd get up to nearly two dozen. Then add around 10 or so people I know only online, and you'd get close to 40 (assuming I can do math -- not always the case). But I don't count any of those people as true friends, although I may in time add them to my list of true friends. I believe that the term friend is misused these days as meaning someone you don't truly know personally. Your 150 "Facebook Friends" aren't really true friends -- would you tell your deepest secrets to them? I've always cared more about talent over popularity. If you're talented enough, you'll get the best friends. Simply being popular might get you lots of "friends" that aren't really true friends at all!

As far as friends go I'd say I have quite a few, but as far as close friends go, like ones I can truly open up to. Perhaps one?

I am currently spending my Christmas sitting alone in my attic surfing the web while listening to Christmas songs on the radio. I have no friends to call; I am almost 30 years old as well. The day before yesterday I travelled to Amsterdam to visit my Mum on her birthday, and having the intention of staying for a four-day weekend with the rest of my family who also live there. But I found their company so unpleasant that I returned home yesterday. My relationship with them has been steadily deteriorating over the past couple of years. At first, it greatly disturbed me that people I had known for all my life were nolonger the confidants I once took them for. But now I realize that, as people change, relationships change, and apparently I must look elsewhere if I am to find other kindred spirits.

I sometimes attend social events related to my interests, and I do not exclude that this may in the future lead to new friendships; but if it doesn't, I'm okay with that. In the meantime, I enjoy the occasional fleeting social interaction that these events provide me.

In fact, it appears that my current social life is not too different from what BirdInFlight describes: