I called my girlfriend's mother a c**t.

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Why the hell did I do that? I genuinely want to know how to deal with doing such awful things.

(whistles) Man that is bad! What did your girlfriend's mom do to you that got you pissed off?

Oopsie.

She emotionally pushed me when I was trying to stay silent and called me rude for not responding after a day of constant belittlement and patronizing. I then calmly (or as calmly as i could) asked her to leave me alone for i had nothing to say to her. As a result, she verbally attacked me and called me names. I then lost myself and called her a c**t and she kicked me out of the house. I stayed outside waiting for my mother to pick me up, whom I had requested to do so because I could feel the outburst coming. After a minute or so, she came outside because i was talking to my girlfriend through the window and attacked me again. My girlfriend started reminding her that I had aspergers and telling her to back off because she knew that i just needed space. Her mother then decided it was a good idea to push me. Never a good idea to do that to an autistic person... I asked her in a very grizzly voice not to touch me. She clearly noticed that it was getting me worked up, so she started to poke and prod me in the chest repeatedly like a child. It took all the love I feel for my girlfriend not to push her down the stairs behind me. I instead screamed at her that you don't poke someone with aspergers. She told me I was using my disability as a crutch. She said I was using it to get out of my problems. I tried to walk away from the house and she followed me. I tried to get away and I couldn't. That woman is lucky I'm more in control than I was even a year ago and she's lucky my mother wasn't there. On the ride home my mom tried to calm me down and held my hand and made sure I knew that I was going to be okay. This happened yesterday and the woman has only gotten more angry and is trying to stop me and my girlfriend from seeing each-other. All I have to say to that is this: The b***h can try. We're both almost 18 and there will be nothing she can do. I'm sorry for telling the whole story, but I needed to vent and this gave me the opportunity. Please give your genuine opinion on who was primarily at fault, because I honestly don't know. Thanks for reading.

Hi I am his girlfriend and this was my mom that he is talking about and we are both very upset and confused about how to deal with this and what to do and would appreciate any advice

You're 17. Stay away from her mother until you are both adults (18) or she could slap you with a lawsuit for rape. After that, it's up to you if you want to carry on this relationship. The woman clearly doesn't like you and probably never will. Maybe an apology on your end may help the situation, but I doubt it. If you do get in good with her (eventually), you will likely have to be kissing her a** the rest of the relationship.

Seems like the mother has no understanding of the disorder and she provoked you. You did try to handle it the right way and you tried walking away and she pushed you and wouldn't leave you alone. Sorry that happened. I would try and stay away from the mother and maybe not go to your girlfriend's house again.

We have actually been banned from seeing each other by my mom and it's very hard as I've been going to his house twice a week for two years and now I'm not allowed to see him at all

Do you go to the same school?

Can you both text each other or talk on Facebook or on any messenger or meet out in public somewhere?

Forget Facebook if your mother monitors it and makes you have her on your friends list. That isn't uncommon for parents to do with minors.

I'm a high-school dropout, but her school is very close to my home, so I plan to meet her after school every day I can. It'll be a hard year if her mother keeps nurturing this blooming vendetta. I only hope we can get through it.

c**t is a very strong word and it's hard to take it back.

But I do understand how you feel. Your girlfriend's mum shouldn't have been calling you names like that, after you told her to back off, autistic or not. Calling someone a c**t does release a lot of anger though, but it's consequences are rather harsh.

I'm glad your girlfriend is understanding though. Hopefully you and her mum will make up in time.

Does your parents know that you can't see your girlfriend because of her mom? And how do they feel? Are they on your side or girlfriend's mom side?

Why? Um.. maybe she is a "Clot", possibly a "Chit", she's unlikely to be a "Cart" though.. (I could go on).

I'm going to look at this from the parents point of view and have read both your threads. She thinks her daughter can do better than you. You have anger/self control issues and have dropped out of school. You haven't mentioned her dad so guessing maybe a single mother and protective of her kid. The whys don't matter, calling someone that word in their own home is pretty disrespectful, makes you sound like a punk and you cant really take it back. Not sure there is anything you can do about it while you're both living at home, though I am surprised you have been seeing each other for two years and this is the first conflict. If you had a good relationship with her mum before this you might be able to salvage it with a proper apology and giving her time to cool off.

My mom didn't like me dating either of my ex's and for a while I just thought she wanted me to date perfect guys and was being a hypocrite. Then I met my husband I was nervous about him meeting my mother because I thought she wouldn't like him either because he was in special ed as a child and didn't finish high school due to be held back a couple times and the fact he has bad feet and they get sore and has several learning disabilities and could never do college because of his disability. But she liked him and I realize now she just wanted me to be with the best men, not with men who would be too much work for me and stress me out and have too many problems or don't understand me and would be giving me lot of anxiety because of their own issues or their own personalities. She was just looking out for me and didn't want me to be with a guy who was dysfunctional or had anger issues or control issues, etc. I realize now she wasn't being bigoted against guys who are different or have disabilities like me. She just knew before I did.