I don't have anyone to talk to.

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I don't have anyone to open up about stuff to or talk about my problems. The people I currently talk to couldn't care less. There's no autism support groups where I live. I haven't had a friend irl in six years. Recently my psychologist told me that I've never had a real friend.

I'm sorry to hear that. If it helps, i'm a very similar situation. I live in a country where autism isn't really known and i don't have anyone i can talk about it either. I used to have friends but now that school is over, no one calls me anymore.

if you want you could go to clubs (social groups).

meetup.com

but, quite frankly, i find looking for precious lil "friends" or just someone to talk to, like Sisyphus.

not worth the effort

cost benefit analysis

suspect that relationships/interactions are bound to fail/end sooner or later. falling out.

can't prove it. or fully explain it. even to myself.

but, previous relationships (social) have ended up that way.

on the other hand i do not just go around interacting with precious lil "people". (maybe i should).

sometimes i get the impression that both parties have to have a written contract about everything both parties will and will not say and do. statements and actions. and otherwise, then what.

whatever it is takes way too many resources.

$$, energy, time, emotional turmoil

likewise the other thing is that, i tend to naturally or artificially, hold intense grudges. easily. at the slightest, (perceived) provokation.

so it's like, the best case scenario: both parties go holding hands skipping off into the sunset. (whooptie do)

the worst case scenario is subject to imagination.


usually i find that precious lil "people" that told me "we care about you", that they were "helping" me, or that they were my precious lil "friend", end up like, claiming way too much credit, disproportionate to their actions.

sometimes they label some actions and statements (that they made) as "good", while i fancy otherwise.

sometimes they label some actions and statements (that i made) as "bad", while i fancy otherwise.

sometimes they accuse me of things that i did not do. they are not satisfied when i (correctly) told them that i did not do that. and then i have to fumble, with some sort of proof . some things are impossible to prove. some things are extremely difficult to prove.

almost always, they just act like they are the greatest thing since sliced bread and that i ought to be grateful that they told me that they were my precious lil "friend".

talking is overrated, maybe.

but whatever.

sometimes i feel like i am losing the talking skill. and it wasn't that great to begin with.

in some instances it is functionally necessary to talk. no other method of communication will suffice.

but those instances do not occur that often

I made a post looking for people to talk to too. Feel free to pm me if you're still looking. I can't always access this site but I'll answer as soon as I can.

and i don't have anything to talk about either.

but mostly it's just talking to get rid of anxiety. minimize.

although typing works well too.

and it does not have to be face to face. or in real time.

the Internet helps with autism. a lot.

I don't have anyone to talk to either my only friends have always been online and we lost contact years ago. If you'd like you could pm me and we could talk

if you want you can pm me