Has any tried learning cold reading?

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Cold reading is the trick that magicians use to "read your mind" and "psychics" use to "tell the future and talk to the dead."

The person observes another, sees body language and other stuff that autistics don't see. They use "Barnum statements" like "I feel a pain in my chest and something about the letter A. Albert, Alfred, Aaron? No not A, E, Erin? Eric. Yes Eric." And before long their talking to a greaving mother who's son Eric died from lung cancer, or a heart attack, or whatever. This must be a learnable skill. All it is is taking advantage of people's lack of knowledge. If a scammer can convince a person they should spend their life savings getting advice from dear ol' aunt Betty who died 20 years ago I should be able to use those same skills to charm people into treating me like a proper human.

why do you need to manipulate others

Performing a "Cold Reading" is easy -- and the key word is "Performing". It's all an act, and it's all easy money.

Once you have sized up your client for their apparent age, sex, ancestry, and economic status, all you have to do is pitch your statements accordingly (look up "Barnum Statements" and "Rainbow Statements").

Googling "how to cold reading" just now returned 167,000,000 responses -- there is a LOT of info on the Internet.

Remember to ALWAYS tell your clients that (1) you are not psychic, and (2) it is for entertainment purposes only.

Remember also that everyone is seeking answers and guidance, and that there is a seeker born every minute...

I see a troubled and rocky future for you, interspersed with joy and leisure...

I'm not manipulating anyone, not do I want to; at least not anymore than normal. Neurotypicals are incredibly manipulative and Autistics aren't. One of the major differences between the neurotypes is the tendency to lie. Autistics think more literally: therefore it makes sense to me to be blunt and honest. But I get called a liar a lot and no one will ever tell me what it is I'm doing that in the language of neurotypicals tells them that I am untrustworthy. Apparently skilled body language readers can make someone believe anything so certainly if this skill can be taught Autistics could use it to our advantage. Autistics have "flat affect" but neurotypicals have what seems the opposite: their facial gestures look like muscle spasms to me. Their face doesn't move in an easier recognizable way, those movements aren't connected to any meaning or emotion. If I could understand their language naturally I wouldn't be Autistic, so I must learn. And often while my body language to me says "I'm a chill person, curious and honest, responsible and caring." But the neurotypicals read me as "f**k the f**k off you bloody hellfire damned pest!" And I am always shocked by this. I have no idea why everything about me is wrong and no one ever tells me, they just say I am presently a certain way, but can never tell me exactly what that means, what I am physically doing that makes them interpret me this way. I once met a magician whos regular job was a therapist at the county fair and asked him if cold reading works on Autistics and he said yes, but it works better on them in a more calm place where they aren't in sensory overload. Maybe that's what the neurotypicals see, my reactions to the lights and sounds and textures around me, not the reactions aimed at them: but it's subconscious and I don't know how to put my emotions on my body language in a neurotypical way.

My mother and I went to a psychic once, and it was really spooky. The psychic definitely did not know my mum at all, and my mum wasn't on Facebook or any internet sites. But the psychic guessed everything about my mum's dead dad (who died many years ago from cancer). The dead dad used to play a very uncommon musical instrument back when he was a boy, an instrument that you wouldn't really just guess off the top of your head, but she said she kept 'hearing' this instrument while she was trying to talk to him. Then she guessed lots of other things, and my mum hadn't even said a word about her dad since she had been with the psychic. The psychic literally ended up telling my mum's own life story to her, and my mum had not gave out any hints to get such precise facts right from a stranger.
Normally my mum doesn't believe in psychics and stuff, but even she walked out of there that night feeling rather shocked at how accurate the psychic was. I know people on this forum would have an answer like "the psychic was probably just very manipulative" but this really was strange. I would tell you more, but I don't want to give away all my mum's personal business online.

I know that trick!

The methods vary, but it wasn’t a true cold reading.

I think i get what you mean. Like if you could learning to read certain things and have set responses to it.
Kind if like a structured form of what NT do naturally?
I think it would probably help a bit but it seems toctske a lot of work for neurotypicals to do for just a few hours. I think you would exhaust yourself if you tried to do it all day.
Ok also think that these people have a natural skill with that stuff, like they are naturally really good at recognising body language and facial expressions.

By all means look in to it and it may offer some help, but I don't think you can learn to not be autistic, it's just who you are.

I think a significant part of the problem with autistic people's attempts to read and process body language, facial expressions etc. is that we try to be too systematic about it when people's behaviour is often pretty hard to generalise, and trying to apply an externally devised system of rules will probably exacerbate that. The best way to learn to read people better probably involves not thinking too hard about it.