How to Deal with Being Alone?

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Wellfolks, maybe this is strnage for an aspie/autie, but I find it hard to cope with being alone. Like this weekend I will be mostly alone, and I have no friends and my family all live in another city. I don't think I have anyone I can phone, and I'm not sure about IM'ing since there are quite few people I can IM. Mostly, I find it hard to deal with having absolutley no social contact. Anyone have any suggestions?

I have no problem being alone when things are good but when things go bad having to go through all of lives problems alone sucks. The more I remain in total isolation the less problems I have
though.

Never really worried me being alone for years at a time just don't like being with groups of people though some times felt it would be nice to share some time with someone to share my thoughts an feelings when things go bad it starts to be a pain being alone.
The bad times I spent sleeping like in some kind of zombie state in the twlight zone in which time didn't exist an when awoke from this state 2 weeks have past.

I usually don't mind being alone, gives me time to think and stuff, for stuff like sports it kind of sucks but I feel bad when its brought to my attention by my sister or someone because it feels like i'm letting them down by not making friends. I get really confused because a few days ago my sister and her boyfriend were talking about it and they both said that i shouldn't worry because high school kids are dumb anyway...a few days later my sister goes back to saying i should have more friends by now

Honestly I marvel at this problem of yours. I don't identify with it much, so it's a bit of a curiosity to me.

Sometimes when my mom spends the weekend away (we rent together) I will go curl up in her room for a little while, so I suppose I must miss her somehow, but I don't consciously feel lonely when it's such a short time period.

Maybe just hanging out on Wrong Planet will fill some of that void for you?

Well, I'll let you know that you're not the only one: I hate being alone. I mean, I need my time to recharge, but long periods alone...no thanks.
I have cats (just 2!), they help me when I'm lonely...also, finding something to do that seems somewhat productive...like, I have a list of restaurants I want to try, so when I don't have anyone to hang out with, I just go on an adventure to eat something

I also don't like being alone. Well, I do sometimes, but I am alone most of the time which gets quite annoying.

I am usually fine though if I have something to occupy me.

well if i'm on my computer or watching tv i dont mind being alone (especially in the morning, afternoon) however if it's being alone at night, trying to sleep, etc then it gets lonely...

I don't mind being alone as long as I can get outside. In town I feel caged. I like being out where I can't see my neighbor's houses. Not even being able to see roads, or airplanes is even better. I don't mind being around others a couple days a week. And, I will talk on the phone if there is a reason.

It sucks. It really, really does. But every day, I gather myself up, go out and try to make things happen rather than just waiting and waiting.

I think prolonged isolation is what led my aspie friend to the loony bin. Humans are, after all, social creatures.

It's hard to do when you're depressed, but getting out of the house helps a lot. Even just taking a walk, interacting with others at the store--usually makes me feel a little better. Having dogs helps--especially if you can take your dogs with you on walks. The dog lubricates social interaction, and people just tend to be friendlier when you have a dog.

Ultimately, other species can't substitute for your own. But they make the in-between times easier.

I actually enjoy being alone from time to time.

Make two people fight to the death for your amusement, while chanting "two men enter, one man leaves!" or "there can be only one!"

Playing some loud music works.

The only thing that I can really say is that I often do a lot of activities alone. I go to movies and to restaurants alone since many of my friends only want to drink or go to bars. I used to drink, but have since outgrown that. What I would do is try to get involved through volunteering in activities that interest you or maybe going to a gym.