Specific social problems

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I have read that those with Asperger's syndrome find it really difficult to have boyfriend/ girlfriend type relationships through not having great social skills and that sometimes when frustrated enough might kiss a stranger they like the look of. I have to confess I have actually fantasised about doing that before though certainly have never carried it out. I wouldn't even begin to be able to tell someone if I liked them that way. I think that I like someone in the workplace, but don't know how to even begin to bring up this topic having literally never done it before. Has anyone here ever actually tried to tell someone they like them before?

Ethereal,

I think everyone (Asperger's or not), can associate with what you're talking about. I rarely have put myself out there for someone, and when i have, it's usually ended badly. I think it's because I don't have the social skills needed to understand issues like personal space, intimacy, and reciprocity. I can't even work up the nerve to do it anymore.

I can't ignore the fact that there are a couple of things I will often do... I sometimes sorta tap my foot a few times while seemingly also not looking people in the eyes much... this is when I'm putting the effort in but ultimately feel anxious... this must come across as slightly fearful, I'd imagine...

i probably wouldnt just kiss anyone, but i'd hold a strangers hand. preferably on a couch reminissing and drinking champaine
a conversation about my favorite athelete would probably get me into bed

Okay - to be honest, I have just about given up trying. I'm 34, and I have never had a girlfriend (although many crushes). Just last year, I have finally learned how to ask a woman out lol. I think it is extremely difficult (i.e. harder than figuring out Windows) for people with AS to establish relationships with others, and even more so dating. I think it is even possible to be a gentleman or a lady, and still not be noticed by others. The busier our modern age becomes, the more intensely difficult to find love, especially when chivarly is mostly dead. Instead of giving information, I can actually rant on this subject; however, I will not, since probably most of what I would say would be of delusional material in comparison to the world's perception in general.

All good stuff can be brought down temporarily with simple academic work being at hand...

I don't want a boyfriend. I consider myself asexual. I am simply not interested in romantic relation ships. However, I do want friends. Some socialization problems I have with that are lack of understanding body language, & other peoples emotions. & I hardly ever understand when people are joking.