Having problems with neediness -- lost skills - help!

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Mutanatia
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19 Nov 2024, 11:33 am

Gravitate towards people to the point where I suffocate them. Sometimes, I take too much of their time. Sometimes, it actually becomes dangerous for them. Re-open old fights/conversations and expect them to repeat conversations to feed neediness. Then, blame them when they don't want to have conversations and deny, deny, deny!

I have been okay for the past years with this problem. Within the past 8 months, I have apparently been sucking people dry with my constant neediness and inappropriate gravitation. Have had conversations with people where stress almost causes heart attack. Had to kick other, needy friend to curb because she was beyond my help.

Had catastrophe where best friend had liver disease and he gave me all the time he had to neglect of wife because I was so needy. He died and I am grieving. Wife says that my stress mainly (Not 100%) may have killed him.

Need help before this gets any more out of hand. I am aware that part of this is who I am, but yet I was doing much better before. Last 8 months I have become mess with social cognition, etc.

Why did I lose skills and how do I get them back?

Mut



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19 Nov 2024, 6:14 pm

Mutanatia wrote:
Gravitate towards people to the point where I suffocate them. Sometimes, I take too much of their time. Sometimes, it actually becomes dangerous for them. Re-open old fights/conversations and expect them to repeat conversations to feed neediness. Then, blame them when they don't want to have conversations and deny, deny, deny!

I have been okay for the past years with this problem. Within the past 8 months, I have apparently been sucking people dry with my constant neediness and inappropriate gravitation. Have had conversations with people where stress almost causes heart attack. Had to kick other, needy friend to curb because she was beyond my help.

Had catastrophe where best friend had liver disease and he gave me all the time he had to neglect of wife because I was so needy. He died and I am grieving. Wife says that my stress mainly (Not 100%) may have killed him.

Need help before this gets any more out of hand. I am aware that part of this is who I am, but yet I was doing much better before. Last 8 months I have become mess with social cognition, etc.

Why did I lose skills and how do I get them back?

Mut


These type questions should be posed to a therapist. I can't answer anything meaningful based upon the text above. I do not really understand what you have written.


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19 Nov 2024, 6:15 pm

My concern is that I lost skills to be mindful and don't know how to regain them.

Yes, talking with therapist -- or will next week.