Nightclubs are hell. What's cool or fun about a thumping, sw

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:/ I love loud music, and having been to a couple concerts in my life, There's something thrilling about the surge towards the stage, the crush of bodies. If I could find a club that was anything like a rock concert I'd love it. the dance floors are too empty though. When you're all crushed together the person next you can barely see what you're doing. Theres a sort of freedom of anonymity in such a public place.

Also, at the better concerts (think the angrier more violent music) if you don't want to make small talk... good, because nobody really wants to make small talk with you either. In fact you can be the most evil person ever and it's truly acceptable behavior. Very relieving when you spend 24 hours a day 7 days a week trying to keep steady control over your actions. (For example: a girl at a DISTURBED concert complained about the immense crowd in front of the stage. and shouted loudly "will you just stop pushing already!" She got my gum in her hair, and anyone that witnessed my act had heard her unwarranted complaint and were most likely jealous they hadn't thought of it first.)

If a guy hits on you (girls) it's perfectly okay, assuming you're not in some secluded escape-free area, to tell whomever it is to back the f*ck off and walk away.

Also (to guys) if an individual girl at a concert (such as Disturbed) starts hitting on you... the probability that her hulking boyfriend is near suggests you politely decline and walk away.

The almost lack of single people that are expecting to get laid makes it a slightly more comfortable environment.

And though you can be as nasty as you want, you can also be friendly and make friends quite well.

I recommend it, but I guess like somebody else mentioned, to each his/her own.

Me and bass noise never used to get along. This is why I used to never go to nightclubs, but at University, I went along one night because my friends were going, and I thought I might as well, because you can't really knock something until you have tried it.
Noise...
But I enjoyed myself... eventually.
At the beggining, I was putting my hand across my chest to stop the feeling of the noise. The next step I took was to just tap my foot in rhythem, that actually seemed to work. The porblem I had had with the music was that it was being forced upon me, in my eyes. But I just chosed to listen to it, and so it didn't affect me as much.
But back to the point, I did drink at the nightclub, but not to extreams, and I've been since to them were I have not drunken at all. And its fun. This may be specific to the place I go to, which is an alternative music nightclub, but the people were very friendly, with very few exceptions people moves past as politly as possible, and people were free to dance how they wanted without others commenting. By watching other people I looked at differnt ways people dance, and just learnt to relax and enjoy myself.
Of course, I'm still wary of going to other nightclubs, and I would never go without my friend(s), because I tend to have them around in case I do start to feel like I'm being overcome by noise. I used to need to go outside for a bit to get some air, but now I'm generally fine.
As for the point of this post, I think I will end by saying that its not neccecerrily the music that is fun, but more the atmosphere and who you share it with.

I've gone to a club exactly twice in my life, both times because it's been somebody's farewell 'party'. The first time i actually didn't mind the dancing (didn't love it, either), socialising with the people i already knew was somewhat easier because they were too drunk to notice my quirks much (in any case, too loud to have a real conversation). apart from that, nothing to recommend it.
The second time, it was two girls' farewell party (ironically, considering how important alcohol is in these places, one the of these two girls is a Muslim). i met a beautiful, very nice girl with some shared interests (from my uni, and we hapened to end up sitting next to one another , otherwise we would have never met) and spent ages talking to her. obviously, she was already taken (when was the last time you met a girl both nice and beautiful that wasn't already taken?), but i still enjoyed myself despite the place (hearing each other wasn't easy). i left soon after she did.
i have no idea how you'd hook up at a club (or anywhere else - i couldn't hook up even a very drunk, very ugly girl) and i'm sure i'll never do it, i have no particular love for dancing, so basically i will go to a club again only if there's a particular reason to.

Most guys i know hate dancing and suck big time in dancing (contrary tp the girls) yet they love to go to nightclubs .....but not for dancing really but just for finding girls or sex. Nightclub is the magnet of the most shallow people .

Going just for the people will make it suck every time, since most people in general suck. I like to hear good music, dance ( it's great exercise) and have a nice drink or two. If I happen to meet a person who doesn't suck or has something interesting/intelligent to say ( and it HAS on occasion occurred) then I consider it a bonus and possible learning experience. I like to dress up, too, so it gives me a chance to do that ( refer to post about boot and wig collection) as well.
I like clubs better than pubs--- pubs are designed to sit and talk to people. My only escape is either the exit or the bathroom when someone wants to talk to me ( mostly idiots or people who don't understand).

Whenever ive gone to a club it hasnt gone well. Back when I first started uni I treated club like a shamanistic ritual. I would dance myself into a trance. The palpable tension created by the subbass can actually be pleasurable if you're able to just let it all wash over you. If not its disorienting and the last time I went I was actually being taken the piss out of by a group of people since I was standing as still as a column hands in pockets just staring into space. My theory is that I simply shutdown as all the sensory input was too much.

Im thinking about the deep house type nightclub where the music is repetitive and shamanistic anyway. I approach it as I do pleasuable sensory experiences. Its like stepping into a hot bath. If I can dull my awareness (pot/alcohol) im fine. But if im there sober I am going to end up feeling overwhelmed and all the sensory inputs will just bombard me mercilessly