"I can't hear you, speak up!"

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Is this just me? I talk in what I think is a normal level, if not too loud but am often asked to repeat myself or speak up. I absolutely can't stand repeating myself and most of the time I assume the person just wasn't listening to begin with and stop talking altogether.

Argh.

I have the same problem. I feel like I'm speaking in a normal voice, but it's not apparently. My mom says my voice is non-assertive.

I'm often told to speak up as well. I think I forget that other people's ears are further from my mouth than my ears are, so the fact that I can hear myself doesn't mean that other people can.

often, before i speak, i decide to take special care to talk slowly, clearly and louder, because people complain that they don't hear what i am saying. so i am careful to speak loud and clear and even so they literally interrupt me in the middle of the sentence asking me to repeat myself.

and that drives me crazy, because i am careful to talk loud and slow and clear and if they at least let me finish what i started saying they would get to understand me. but it looks like they don't listen in the first place. but i, of course, always suppose the mistake is mine.

I had that problem and finally overcame it later in life. My son has that problem. I think you are not projecting your voice. Try speaking from your gut and not your chest. I think that was my problem plus an overdeveloped sense of privacy. I had a real fear of being overheard by people other than the one I was talking to.

I have this problem, especially when talking to my mom in public, who has bad hearing. I'd rather repeat myself, than have EVERYONE around me hear me loud and clear. My mom, when at the store talking to some employee behind the counter, talks REALLY loud, and everyone within a 10 foot radius can hear ever word...I'd rather avoid that.

I was just on a 4 day road trip with 2 friends, and they kept saying 'what'. Finally I asked them to tell me exactly why they didn't understand what I was saying, and explained that aspies often have difficulty knowing the correct volume and modulation.

They said that my voice and enunciation were exceptionally clear, and the volume was right, but what I said was unexpected, so they wanted me to repeat myself so they could try to follow my jump.

So it turned out to be the aspie associational jump. All my asides were relevant, and formed a complete pattern, but I didn't present them in a linear, coherent way. Having me repeat was their way of both checking to be sure they heard me correctly, and also making time so they could try to connect the dots.

Used to happen to me all the time, hehe. I adapted pretty much though. I always feel like I'm yelling now. But apparently, I'm not.

I hate that, too. It bugs me when I think I'm talking as loud as I can without yelling and people still tell me to speak up. For example, when doing a play or reading a speech, I try to project my voice out, but when the teacher tells me to raise my voice up, I feel like my effort is being ignored. It's also annoying when I get filmed talking and watch it afterwards, that my voice is barely audible.

The same exact thing happened to me all the time. It still does at times, but I've gotten better at remembering to speak louder lately. To me I feel like I'm almost yelling, but apparently it's just right.

I have a very quiet voice and I hear this constantly. But when I'm speaking at a "normal volume", I feel like I'm shouting at people. Maybe NTs just like to be yelled at

But it might be a subconcious response to people always telling me that I sound like a man (I'm not one)/have a low voice.

I'm sort of opposite to your problem: I have trouble understanding people. I hear them fine, but if it's sudden or unexpected, I often have to make them repeat it. I usually find myself in a conversation just guessing what the person just said; fortunately people are quite predictable. Then I'm never quite sure how to ask them to repeat... 'What?' gets to the point and I use that the most but apparently it's rude (everyone uses it though), 'Sorry' doesn't feel right to use constantly, and can be misunderstood, and 'Pardon' seems excessively polite.