How does AS affect friendship?

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I've been posting on another board about friendship troubles I have, and have been getting some quite harsh 'you are stuffing it up' replies. I think part of it is that they don't understand how Aspergers might affect the situation.
I was hoping to post something along the lines of 'aspergers means that in friendships...' with a list, but I'm not sure exactly what to say. Can anybody suggest anything?

It makes things... lets just say interesting

Hasn't affected mine so I couldn't say

I have very few close friends, due in large part to my social awkwardness. Most of my friends are merely acquaintances; the kind that you would say "hello" to whenever you pass them in the halls and with whom you'd have a short small-talk session.

I have a few really close friends, who really understand me.

same here....
For most people I seem "not worth the trouble"
As others have said, i have a few close friends who have been around for a long time...

There come along people to whom I seem "Interesting" and then they try to make the effort to be my friend and maybe might succeed after a while...or rub me the wrong way so I end up fearing and avoiding them....because I do not entirely understand them or their motives, and/or doubt that they understand me...or they may continue to over and over again illustrate that they have not "gotten" where I am coming from...

I can be very nonreciprocal, unless motivated to be so...but then if motivates, I might alienate them by coming off as overly greagarious... and make a fool of myself...and then they avoid me..

My newest obsession...since my moderate recent mental breakdown has been "attempting to communicate"...but I still can only go so far.

In attempting to communicate...I mean that whenever it is necc. to introduce a new person into my "space" I feel the need to give them a disclaimer so that they know how to interact with me, and visa versa
I am part-owner, and help run a couple of businesses. I recently had to hire some help because I am overwhelmed and overloaded...I put an ad out on facebook asking for help, and to the one person who responded who did not know I was "spectrumy", I was compelled to issue them a giant disclaimer about how difficult it might be to get along with me if they did not understand me. This would a. either allow them to understand me...or b. illustrate that perhaps the job might be more trouble than it's worth...

My version of an interview had to be figuring out whether or not they could learn to understand/get along/ work with me...and in doing so, it turns out that she was "willing to accept the challenge" and thus far, we have gotten along great...and I can actually be a good "boss" to people who are able to "get" me...and not some "evil weirdo tyrant" as I may seem to my "employees" who are scared of me.

My best friend the only person I really trust is my wife. It's been hard for me to make additional friends though I try. I feel like no matter what I do I just rub people the wrong way. Sometimes I do rub people in a bad way, but I feel like even when I am not doing anything wrong I just don't fit. Neither do I really want to fit. I'm sort of addicted to feeling different. So, I'm working on not giving a s**t unless I have done something really bad.

I have a few friends-for-life, which such deep bonds that I know them as much
as myself and I am not aware of deeper relationships except between
identical twins. I am too shy to make friends so the initial attraction is usually
the manifestation of a common special interest OR the natural and true
ability of someone to be friendly with everyone including myself.

I am very easy to get along with if you are a nice and friendly person.
I do not start fights and avoid people who do, even if fighting is NORMAL.
I am not a fool or pushover. Non Sequitur.
In a perfect world, there would be no enemies and therefore no fights.

It's quite complex isn't it? It means people often fall out with us because of misunderstandings. It means we often can't keep up with them, or they with us, in one way or another. We tend to miss all their secret little signs, and fail to give out our own. I'll keep thinking on this, and maybe return.

I've lost a few "friends" in high school, due to my meltdowns. My high school years, were the worse years of my life.

Well, with me I feel like I can't spend enough time with them because I get exhausted by a lot of social interaction. They could say one thing that seems innocent to them that could set me off. I find they sometimes say offensive things without realising it. Then there's the whole sarcastic teasing thing. It's just so stressful being around them sometimes.

My T thinks that I should give a sort of 'AS disclaimer' when people seem like they are becoming friends. Does anyone else do this? Does it help?

I have found that it is helping for me more and more...I am getting older...I can't just keep fearing and avoiding people....or letting people cross my boundaries, because they don't understand how my boundaries work and their importance..I need some kind of friendship...I can't just be completely dependent on just the very few people who I have known forever who totally "get" me...I was really hurt by someone who claimed to "get" me...but illustrated that either they really did not..or they simply did and didn't care and/or were even willing to use it against me....
I have a really hard time being around people who make me uncomfortable...and so on....

So...yes...I am finding disclaimers to be helpful....in my long rambly post about hiring a person to work for me...that would be similar to what I would have to express to someone who, for whatever reason wanted to be my friend.

I have terrible difficulties with friendships. At the current time, I have my immediate family and a guy I send funny links to over instant messenger and that's about it. Most of my friends from high school just drifted away. One of them stuck around until I got really drunk one night and disclosed a really painful incident that I'd never told anyone about. I guess it must have come out wrong, as though I was bragging or something, because she said something like ".. and I used to think you were a good person," and made herself scarce soon afterward.

I am so thankful for the internet. I'm so much better at writing than at face to face conversation. As a matter of fact, I met my husband online. For me, it's difficult to meet new people right now, and it's twice as hard for me to connect with women, for some reason. I think NT women seem to have a whole other layer of complexity to their interactions. They also tend to like really ridiculous television shows and oftentimes are so catty and backstabby that I avoid them.

my "friends" are like toys that i play with until i am bored and then i desist with them.
they rant and carry on, but i can not hear them when i put them back in their box.