This guy gets angry because I won't hangout with him

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Read this earlier thread for reference on the same individual in question

http://www.wrongplanet.net/posts131205-highlight.html

However, this guy who always wants to hangout with me it seems and I have for the past couple of years or so(although I think there is some other reason behind it). Get's angry at me (or appears) so because I told him I couldn't hang out with him tomorrow. In addition, a while back I told him I wouldn't be able to hangout as much because I was very busy with stuff for school(That is true).

So after I told him on Facebook, I wouldn't be able to hangout tomorrow after he asked me if i wanted to, He sends me a message saying "Thanks whatever man" followed by "Real pos", which was then proceeded by a prompt defriending of me by him. Then I get a SMS on my phone saying "Thanks alot c*cksucker".

So I figure I should do what any rational person would do in my situation, ignore him. As he has also acted this way before in some similar situations, or when things haven't gone in his favour. I was also planning to send him a response message saying "idk what I have done in you opinion to offend your sensibilities, but given the way you are acting I'm just going to ignore you". However, I figure that would be just stirring the pot.

Any opinions on this situation from other members?

Last edited by TheMatador on 18 Aug 2010, 7:51 pm, edited 1 time in total.

what does 'real pos' mean? he sounds nuts

Based on your previous experiences with him lying about everything, he is not your friend. Friends do not lie to each other. There is no reason to hang out with someone who could get you in trouble by lying to you.

Ordinarily, you don't want to deny an NT's request to hang out, get lunch or whatever. But in this case, you have a dangerous NT that you shouldn't have anything to do with.

After he cools off, he will come crawling back, but you should still avoid him.

Piece of sh*it, to answer your question.

oh, splendid

I just don't know about the whole issue which I've been grappling with myself for a while. As like I said he has a long and varied history of telling the same type of lies to NT's also. I also know of many from when I was in high school who where completely turned off by the guy too. I'm pondering though what is his issue, is it a lack of confidence self-esteem or sureness, as he doesn't seem to be a completely bad guy, and he seems to have a fairly good future when you uncover the truth? Or is it something more serious underlying it all.

Overall though this particular incident in question I figure could all be a misunderstanding,? Even though I have been busy maybe he thought I was lying to him and not just waning to hangout or something else?

Lol, he already sent me another friend request on Facebook.

It's difficult to not misunderstand liars.

And also, liars expect others to be like themselves.
They can't imagine otherwise.

thats so true

It's always a bit weird when somebody hurls abuse at you for not wanting to be with them......if they want to be with you so much that they get that angry, then surely they must think you're great?

I can understand the anger (though the expression of it like that is off the wall).......he's probably lonely and maybe you were his only hope of company. But sometimes people have got other things to do, and he'd do better to accept that.

Wait, what are you trying to say in the first part?

I'm not trying I say it as it is - but with a poor English, I agree.

Ok,

i think it was a kind of double negative- meaning its difficult to understand liars/ its easy to misunderstand liars

So should I just completely ignore this guy or what? Because I'm leaning towards doing exactly that.

On any kind of e-chatter like facebook, yes, ignore him. But if he clls you, go ahead and let him know why.

Its sad, but no one should be friends with someone who lies to them. Its bad enough if you caught him lying to other people, but when he lies to you, any trust you had for him is violated. You can't be friends with someone you don't trust.

I don't know him, but he could also be pathological which is a mental disorder. Or he could also be delusional and actually believe all these grandiose things he says. Delusional is a mental disorder and if I remember right, is related to schizophrenia. I once met a delusional guy in a nut house that I worked in that thought he was Dr. Martin Luther King. The problem for him was that the real MLK was a black guy who died many years ago. The delusional guy was a white guy who was still alive. But even still, the guy really believed it and would pass a lie detector test.

Both pathological liars and delusionals will pass lie detector tests, but pathologicals actually know that they are lying whereas delusionals actually believe its true.