calling someone a friend

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Are people weirded out when you call them your friend?

yeah. im very wary of using the term 'friend' these days. i prefer 'someone i know'. that's generally more accurate.

I'll usually introduce them by name, like this:

"This is Bob, we had History class together last Spring." or "This is Kayla, she loves to draw too." That way, they learn who they are (first name, anyway) and something about them. I had a friend who called me his 'bestie' every time he introduced me, short for 'best friend' and that made it feel really awkward. I'm sure there are other ways to get around the whole 'friend' thing though.

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Not if they are one. If I'm not sure, I never bring it up.

I prefer the term "comrade." It implies that you share a common goal, interest, or whatever, but does not necessarily imply friendship.

i don't know where 'acquaintance' ends and 'friend' begins, so i don't call someone a friend unless they call me one. although maybe it's just because i don't have many, because when someone's a proper friend i can tell easily after a while- it's just those pesky inbetweeny ones

What most people around me call 'friends' I call 'acquaintances' and almost cringe when I hear someone say 'friend' about a person they've only just met. I can spend a lot of time with a person before they get 'promoted' to friends. And sometimes I have this feeling that some people are just showing off the number of their 'friends' to hint that I don't have that many friends while they're so popular. Then I remember that the world doesn't revolve around me.

Here's a situation that happened to me -just- today:

I was eating lunch in the cafe, when I guy I've never met before walked up to me and said "Hey, you're David's friend right? I've seen you around." We only talked for 15 minutes (I was drawing Disney princesses, so we talked about art), when one of his friends came in to find him. He introduced me as "This is my pal..." and I'm pretty sure I visibly cringed as I shook his friend's hand. This guy does not know me, and speaking with me for 15-20 minutes made me his 'pal'? I shudder at why people do this.

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No.
I don't call many people friends, though.

I currently have no friends, I have three acquaintances though.

I would not know how to be some ones friend why bother ?

I notice NTs refer to each other as friends out of politeness. By saying something like, "shes in my class", there some distance with that. I dont often dont know what to refer people as. I have an idea of who is actually my friends and who isnt.

I'm very selective about using the term "friend" because I don't want to weird someone out if they don't feel the same way about me. I often ask myself "would this person call me a friend?" before I use the term to reference or define someone.