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bigbadbeast2007
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18 Sep 2012, 3:39 am

That's it I am fed up with the constant rejection by people, online of offline particularly with facebook for the most part I am crying out for help on there and my so called "friends" I am posting statuses and i never get a single comment or like. I am f*****g fed up with people and their selfishness. I am the one who helps them when they're are down and out but they never return the favor. I even had someone who told me to go kill myself. because i posted a status on facebook No offense to anybody here but i hate aspergers syndrome :evil:



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18 Sep 2012, 4:08 am

Aspies/auties don't seem to do well with FB. It is, after all, an ultra-social site, something spectrumites can't deal with.



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18 Sep 2012, 4:24 am

redrobin62 wrote:
Aspies/auties don't seem to do well with FB. It is, after all, an ultra-social site, something spectrumites can't deal with.


i see what you mean. A sad reality



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18 Sep 2012, 4:33 am

redrobin62 wrote:
Aspies/auties don't seem to do well with FB. It is, after all, an ultra-social site, something spectrumites can't deal with.

SOME* can't deal with.
It's a good website even for us. (Although my friends don't understand why everything I post is so long...) The problem is that people, such as the OP, put a value on likes/comments.
From what I've seen most people don't like or comment in general. And those with high amount of likes usually have 100-700facebook friends they've never even talked to before.

And depressing statuses, rants, complaints and such rarely get likes. I've heard dozens of people question wheter 'liking' something sad is being nice or whether it's interpreted as liking that the OP is sad.


People who simply try and troll you aren't worth the time of day. Either add them to the acceptions of who can view your statuses or simply block them.


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18 Sep 2012, 4:33 am

bigbadbeast2007 wrote:
for the most part I am crying out for help on there and my so called "friends"
I am posting statuses and i never get a single comment or like. I am f***ing fed up with people and their selfishness.


What do you mean by "crying out for help"? It sounds quite desperate. If your posts are literally asking people for help, then that would wear thing after a while, I would imagine it's awkward for people to read.


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I even had someone who told me to go kill myself.


That's cruel. I'd unfriend this person.



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18 Sep 2012, 9:09 am

Facebook is overrated. I use it as a bridge for people I don't want to give my email or phone number to. Even then I only check it once or twice in a month. It has been very useful for keeping tabs on people and finding long lost contacts. You'd be surprised the amount of unnecessary information that people put up these days.

But that's the thing with social websites. Someone is always trying to show up someone else. Unfortunately they pay no mind to anyone else that may be watching. Save yourself the stress and pay no mind to it.


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18 Sep 2012, 10:17 am

If you constantly post depressing, sad statuses all the time people won't comment and will get fed up.

I don't post negative statuses unless it's something really out of the ordinary.



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18 Sep 2012, 10:24 am

Posting depressing status's are depressing. People won't respond because it is depressing, and they may view it as an attention seeking exercise. If it is an occasional one, then that's fine. But constantly is depressing.



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18 Sep 2012, 12:13 pm

I think you miss the point of FB comments and likes. Likes are just things you click if something is amusing, or you want someone to know you read their status. Comments aren't a conversation, you only comment on something if you think of something you want to say after reading the status. I may comment on lots of things on one day and nothing for several days. It depends.

As for FB drama, well most people will avoid it. You also have to realize that not everyone sees every status you post. I usually wouldn't get involved in some kind of FB dramatic status unless I knew the person really well and was pretty sure my comment would help. Most people don't like that and consider it attention seeking. If you really need to talk and "cry out for help" you should message someone personally. That way they will know that you would like to talk to them,while a status is just a general comment.


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18 Sep 2012, 10:13 pm

bigbadbeast2007 wrote:
That's it I am fed up with the constant rejection by people, online of offline particularly with facebook for the most part I am crying out for help on there and my so called "friends" I am posting statuses and i never get a single comment or like. I am f***ing fed up with people and their selfishness. I am the one who helps them when they're are down and out but they never return the favor. I even had someone who told me to go kill myself. because i posted a status on facebook No offense to anybody here but i hate aspergers syndrome :evil:



It's bad to say you hate it. but it also makes you vulnerable to others reactions like how you said someone wanted you to kill yourself. that shows they want to see misery in you. facebook itself is lame but sometimes it's best to make fun of it. it's not the social network itself,it's the people that make the world a living nightmare with their bogus remarks in front of their circumstances. social networking is like a toy that people play with. your not alone. you want to feel good about your syndrome find me on here or google+ or the annoying facebook. let me know if you want me to message you my name.


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19 Sep 2012, 5:59 am

Too many negative statuses can hurt, as I've painfully learned. And to the person who said to kill yourself, that's just stupid.

I am on FB, but I am pretty careful with what I post.


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19 Sep 2012, 10:18 am

The last time I posted a negative status, I was in a car accident.

Save your negs for really bad. Constantly complaining day in and day out will get people angry.



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19 Sep 2012, 1:08 pm

Yeah, facebook is futile. I haven't updated my status in about a year. I just keep it open so old friends can contact me and current friends can share pictures of me. I think for aspergians, getting caught up in facebook drama can fill up our rather small social calendar, so it's best to avoid it and focus our time on real life. Plus, most of the stuff on there is boring attention-seeking anyway.



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19 Sep 2012, 1:52 pm

Eh, I've met a lot of people on FB and actually made more friends on it since I've been down here in the country. I kind of enjoy it. I usually avoid the drama though.


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23 Sep 2012, 9:11 pm

Socializing is mostly about hypocrisy, lies, and making people happy, or, depending on the circumstances, very unhappy, since people like to insult and tease each other.

I don't have high school friends on my facebook because they organize high school reunions like every two years, and I hate parties.

In order to do well on Facebook, you need to post cool things, like "I am going to restaurant so and so", or "I am going to a concert on ____"

I collect toy trains and I was going to post pictures of my toy trains, and fake train accidents, but I didn't because I knew that the few facebook friends I have would just say, "What a moron". Always be careful with people.


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23 Sep 2012, 9:22 pm

It's Facebook. It's a place for casual socialising, not a therapy site.


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