about unattractive and unpopular nt women

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Ok I can get a pretty popular nt women not wanting to date an aspie/autism male
or being friends with an aspie/autism female. Ok I get that.
What I don't get is why do unattractive and unpopular nt women don't want to date an aspie male
or make friends with aspie women.

I understand with the popular pretty ones. You know they have some ''social code'' they have to live by
or something like that.
But unpopular ''plain jane'' types what the f&(k do they have problems with male and female aspies?
It pissed me off. Look I can understand a more popular, pretty girl not wanting to hang out with me or
any other aspie person. But when a plain jane unpopular reject female also reject people with aspie.
It pisses me off.

Maybe we just creep them out.

Most people (I'm assuming it's like 15 or 16+)aren't insecure like that conforming to some childish superficial rule system, rather that they just feel good about themselves, and since we come off immature and/or rude or whatever, they don't want to associate .


Makes sense to me.

Maybe they just don't like the whole "you're unattractive and unpopular, but I'll save you from that" vibe.

Perhaps you don't mean your post the way it sounds to me, but the way I read it, no matter how desperate I ever was, I'd never stoop that low. In fact, in high school, I was desperate, and this one girl decided she liked me - because she thought I might be desperate enough to settle for her. No thanks. If that's all we've got in common - that neither of us can do any better - it's time to just give up and get used to being alone.

I could be because you think of them as "reject" females. If you think of someone as a reject, it's only fair that they reject you also isn't it?

Well, they are not popular or pretty. Think of meg from family guy or lisa simpson from the simpson. ( I don't think lisa simpson ''ugly'' she is not very popular) but both of them refuse to date other boys similiar to them.

I wonder if your somewhat contentious attitude towards them is coming through. Remember, they probably know well that they are the plane jane. Reminding them of that isn't going to win you any favors.

Agreed.

+ 1. Seems to be recurring in your posts recently, OP...

My daughter is pretty and popular and one of her friends is an aspie guy.

Not one, but TWO of my friends have been hit on while they were throwing up outside of bars. What does this have to do with anything, you might ask.

Well, my point goes along with the other posters. If you're hitting on girls who are a "C grade" or below and perhaps don't have anything in common with you, they can probably tell why you're hitting on them- you think you have a good chance because they're a C grade or below. If you didn't get my story association, the dudes hitting on my friends thought they could get their numbers because anyone puking in a bar parking lot must not think a lot of themselves.

Why don't you just get to know someone who is interested in things that you're interested in, forget about looks one way or the other, and see where things go from there? Don't go at it looking to pick up chicks. Things work their way out themselves.

And yes, both NT and aspie chicks date aspie dudes. I see plenty of ASD/ASD and ASD/NT couple combinations both at my university and at different conventions and special interest shows I go to.

well, That what they are.. plain jane types. I tell alot of women they are average looking because it's the truth.

Yeah I shouldn't stereotype all pretty girls. Believe it not there are alot of stuck up ugly women out there and alot of cool pretty ladies.

And what do you look like then? Mr Universe?

If you don't like plain-looking women, stop approaching them and just go for the pretty, popular ones you so evidently prefer.

But it sounds to me like you keep getting knocked back by ALL women so need to go back to the drawing board and have a re-think of your strategy...

Being a relatively plain-looking person myself I will let you in on a secret - we can pick up on a person who thinks they're 'all that' and far too good for the like of us at 50 paces and we aren't interested, however they look! We're as interested in the attractive types with decent personalities as yourself and some of us have more luck with them from the sounds of it

This doesn't add up

If there's a lot of 'cool pretty ladies' out there, surely you'd be with one and not be bothering to interact with the 'stuck up ugly women'. Or is it that the 'cool pretty ladies' don't have any time for you? (in which case why are they cool?) so you have to resort to trying your luck with the 'ugly' ones, who have no time for you either?

You don't sound very self-aware at all and seem to be labouring under the major delusion that you're God's gift to women.

Maybe they just don't like you.
Maybe they already have friends and aren't so desperately lonely that they need to settle for someone who goes up to them going "Herp derp, ur average looking so you shouldn't be so snobby. You have to be my friend now, k?"

Maybe they just don't like you.
Maybe they already have friends and aren't so desperately lonely that they need to settle for someone who goes up to them going "Herp derp, ur average looking so you shouldn't be so snobby. You have to be my friend now, k?"