Always thinking the worst of people

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Is it just me, or are you always expecting someone to screw you over or something similar?

Even in my closest friends I'm always distrusting their motives and suspecting that they are against me in some way.


Ok, that sounded rather emo, not my style at all I assure you, I'm just a bit tired and can't think of a better way to type what I'm thinking.

No, I've had similar thoughts. Now, I just realize not everything is about myself

Maybe it is just us? Maybe not. I find it difficult getting 'close' to people, so to say. The last friend I had who I could share things with is now a sworn enemy, but I chose to ignore how he was screwing me over for years, even though I knew he was doing it.

Last year I had a similar feeling only I think I know what they were doing months before they even knew (they should learn that I'm EXTREMELY observant (I'm very self-aware and often find myself noticing things others do long before they even know)). Everytime I'd walk into a room, a conversation between 2 certain people would stop. I'd ask what they were talking about and got a quick response of "nothing" by one of them who is the worst liar in the history of lying (eyes rolling back and forth, very sneaky and manipulative). "Nothing" even though there was "whispering/low talking" communication going on that ceased the minute I became in view. Logically, they were talking of me. These people were my best friends and just like that, I found myself having to try and read the "undercover" talk they were using like some kind of "new guy" to the group, or something.

Never had to because I was a friend but thinking about it now, I'm glad I left because they would have dragged my ass into the ground with them. One guy is like the "pothead" stereotype (found in the marijuana threads) and the other is just a bit of a goof.

My other friends from that group, they are fine. One said yesterday I was the only one he trusted. Another said I'm the only one he had anything in common with. Those friendships are stone, the ones I mentioned above are over, most likely.

I always am looking for a deeper motive, though not always negative, I always assume alternate motives. THis is a problem because sometimes the motives are entirely innocent and simple. But its good because when people do have deeper motives, even if they are unconcious, I recognize them, meaning I can be a little "crafty".

I could never really trust people either. I always suspected that they only wanted something from me or that they were planning on taking whatever they could from me. Like for instance, I just started talking to this guy at work and we both started letting each other borrow cds from one another. I know I will take good care of his cds, but now I'm thinking...what if he likes my cds too much and he let me borrow cds he didn't care about? Is he going to keep mine? I know deep down this isn't true, but its always an underlying thought.

But then again I come from California and trust is something very rare out there, lol.

My husband has AS and even after 30 years of marriage, from time to time he will blame me for his problems. The closer you are to a person with AS, the more they will distrust you.

Same here!

I'm always expecting the worse out of people. I think it's the internet that caused it beacuse people love to be as cruel as possible when they've got miles between the person they are insulting.

I'm not very trusting at all. And I don't expect people to screw me over as I don't have time to as it just happens.

I tend to be the kind of person that stays away from people not trusting them until I know know them.

People (especally Boys) are always trying to tick me off in a way for their own pleasure.
Some girls are just, well, stupid, one girl I know always accueses everything I do as "Rude" when i haven't done a stupid thing!!

You know if I had been with you or some place near and I see that occur I would defend you. That's just me.

My intense distrust of everyone extends to the government and the police as well as my friends. Make no mistake, I am not some "conspiracy nut" (although I do find 9/11 to be a little too efficient and convenient), I'm just the kind of person who would not be surprised at all if the world collapsed into a nightmarish Orwellian dystopia within the next decade or so.

As for my friends, I'm almost positive that they talk about me behind my back, by I'm not really concerned about them. I'm leaving in a few months and I could care less what a bunch of backwoods corn farmer as*hole kids think about me at this point.

I don't usually assume someone is going to try to screw me over, but I do usually assume that people don't like me/are rude and inconsiderate/are generally bad people/don't care about anything/ect.

I rarely trust people for any length of time. If, by some off chance, I do end up trusting someone, it ends very quickly. I generally don't think that they're talking behind my back, but I get the feeling that something's not right - we're just not getting along and revealing more of myself will only bring trouble - and I back off.

I don't assume people automatically dislike me, but I don't expect them to like me, either. I am not the sort of outgoing, charismatic person who automatically lights up a room, and I really wouldn't want to be. I just want to be perceived as a person who knows what she's doing. I have gained a degree of respect from that.

I expect people to end up not liking me, and yes, to screw me over.