wozeree wrote:
What I meant by messed up, was too many broken links.
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The whole thing started when I was trying to specific answer questions my son asked me (like "why should I look at people when they talk?" and "how am I supposed to know how someone is feeling if they don't tell me?", etc.), and then grew out of discussions I had with students at my school (a support group of sorts for people who felt socially challenged, only a few of whom had diagnoses of any kind, most of them not on the spectrum). I am honestly not trying to "fix" anyone, and certainly not my son, who is entirely awesome! I am just trying to create a place that breaks down and analyzes how most people communicate, for the benefit of anyone who feels like they're missing out on that information in the first place.
So if your entire goal revolves around helping people who are uncomfortable in communication and/or not good at reading things, why is it only about the other point of view? WHy nothing to help others explain how they feel and how no matter how many times they read your website they still not be able to read all social cues, what that feels like for them. What it feels like when people respond to that with hostility even though they are trying to get it right? Your goal is to fix the problem from a one-sided perspective, which is yours. WHich is FIXING him.
If I was the mother of an Autistic son and I found this place, I would be spending my time getting to know people and understand more about Autism. You are not the first person to show up and with your first posts offer up your "NT" wisdom though. You could put something on your website about people doing that too!
I understand where this opinion is coming from, but I believe it's fairly misguided. This is a rather decent website with a lot of already existing knowledge put together in a fairly nice format, in one location, rather then all over the net. It was also put together in far less of a 'NT wisdom' format, too. Which is a problem with LOTS of the resources I've found beforehand.
The problem of NT perspective is prevalent in almost all resources I've so far discovered, it's an issue, but it's not necessarily completely bad. Especially considering this doesn't actually seem to be aimed beyond "people with social issues"
The dilemma of the NT perspective, I believe, is that they do not actually understand the other side. They have an academical knowledge of it, but it's something you can't truly know without experience. Helping with this kind of thing is extremely difficult, most problems are caused by not knowing about certain subtly ques, yet most solutions are 'look out for x que, it means y'
An example from the website would be:
"Review in your mind how you approached the situation, and whether you made any false moves that might have scared off the other person," The problem with something like this is that in most cases I wouldn't know what they I did wrong, looking back and reviewing the conversation results in "nothing was wrong".
If you gave a blind man a dark-blue and light-blue card, and asked for him to pass you the light-blue card, how would he know if he gave you the wrong one?
I was lucky in the resources I got from my government as a child, I got a social-helper who essentially did the reviewing of a conversation. It wasn't "review you conversation" because I don't
know what I did wrong, it was "this is what you did wrong." then attempts at helping me understand what I actually did wrong. I think this website did fairly well in avoiding the "review your conversation" and instead doing far more "this is what you should/shouldn't do in x circumstance."
Review of the website: I'll be honest, I clicked the link expecting a dreadfully vanilla website with nearly nothing but text and hyperlinks. I instead found a surprisingly decent website design with good content to back it up. The content was indeed a lot of what's already out there, yet that's fine because it's all put into one neat place, whilst a lot of the info can't be found in a single place. It lacked the common "review and figure out what you did wrong" and instead gave a lot of actual info on what is the right/wrong things in certain situations.
Dead links were indeed a problem, I didn't note which ones were dead, though =/ might be good to add a 'report dead link' button or something. Another problem was the navigation bubbles, it wasn't obvious enough that the mini-bubbles changed the content of the main bubble and the positioning of text in the bubbles were rather bad, not even mentioning the hitboxes of the bubbles... I'd prefer a more conventional navigation bar, maybe where hovering over a bubble gives you the sub-bubbles for instance.
Another preference problem was that it's setup to open links in a new tab. I'm not a fan of having to manually navigate tabs and close them by default. If I want it to open in another tab, I'll do that manually by right clicking. But think that's more of a preference thing.
I thank you for this website, some of the stuff was even helpful to me, even though I was expecting help that would be useless for those over 5. I'd recommend this website to others, it's impressive.
30 May 2014, 10:45 am
