Do you have anyone in your life who you can truly confide in

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I'm curious about other aspies social/relationship situations. Loneliness and feelings of alienation/isolation are common threads in aspie life. For myself, I have some loving family members and a couple of "friends" but none of them are true confidants in the sense that I can just be myself without putting up any guards because of my aspieness. Do you have anyone you can completely let your guard down with in your life?

Yes - my BFF.

I don't. My sister is as close as I can get but I still see her facial expression change dramatically when I do or say something being truly myself. So I suppress it almost all the time. I'm a little more relaxed around her but I wouldn't say I'm really myself.

I would say yes, though not locally. It's been a long time since I had real friends around here. I have a couple friends I've known online for years who've struggled with things like depression, etc, too, so we're able to talk about that openly.

I really advise that you find someone locally to confide in rather than online. Online people are going to more than likely be passive rather than focus on the issues you have. I know the outside can be terrifying, but take the steps to go outside and meet new people you can't find on your computer.

Try also to strengthen your relationship with your family even though that can be difficult. For example, I never wanted to in my life be the mommy and daddy issues kid, so what I did was I kept on exercising and I focused on working hard without any complaint even though I am only human.

for the past 6 months, got a counselor. once a week for one hour. she is much better than all the other ones I have had, thus far. she ain't obsessed with mandated reporter duties. she is professional. she did not remark on my appearance, walking gait, etc. she did not give me syrupy condescending compliments. the insurance pays for 6 more months with her. once every 2 weeks. one hour each. then no more interaction. feel so much better after getting her.

in the past, could not "truly confide in" anyone. precious lil "friends" betrayed me. there were some exceptions, but that was not much interaction and not much depth of interaction. plenty of former precious lil "friends" ended up homophobic. some of them made comments about my appearance. some of them just had big egos.

I have my mother, other than her there is no one I can confide in; I've no friends, no true acquaintances, and none of my co-workers or other relatives are particularly close. It often makes me feel very lonely, especially as years go on.

Yes, I can really be myself in front of my family. Also I can confide in my family, friends and a few people at work. Oh, and my boyfriend too.

Sometimes I find men a bit harder than women to confide in though, because men seem to see things from a logical point of view, where as women see things from an emotional point of view.

I confide in only myself and on the ever rare occasion...my mother.

I confide in my husband mostly, and others occasionally. People can be supportive, but I've rarely felt understood.

most dangerous thing to do, it allows psychopaths to hook into that, everytime
or no, no one wants to know, listen
some want to hear you out if there's some gossip to spread, some turn around while you're answerring their inquiry
really, decency drops instantly when you're judged belower,
and you're sure judged belower by the low on QIs, instantly, its weird but a dangerous thing, too

- seriously, some spent time to come see you, after some (just one or two seconds) serious talk, there's only priority to not let you talk no more
listened all my life, heard everything hundreds of times till it got f-ing boring, but apparently it's never your turn

people ask for things they don't even want to hear you say anything about, really
and get angry, if you dare say more than three words they haven't asked for
ears are a burden in the human world,

and talking is the weapon to shut the ears, that's why it's used aggressively
assaulting the ears while shutting its own, who needs weapons of mass destruction?