Do you ever feel genuinely hated?

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I swear that when I go places regularly, especially restaurants, the employees who recognize me develop a strong dislike for me. It's true for all strangers or people I hardly know. People who I converse with generally give me a neutral vibe. In acquaintances who I have never been formally introduced to however, I can sense a deep hate and loathing for my presence. It's really starting to get to me. I'm running out of places I feel comfortable going to. It's getting to the point where I feel I need to buy new clothes, practice skillful social interactions extensively and ditch town to get a new start. Problem is my parents would call the police to track me down (seriously) and I can't just leave my psychiatrist treatment. I really feel like I'm in a bind.

Yes, and I know I am.

yes. and i know i am also. i polarise people. this is a reality and based on feedack from others.

""I can sense a deep hate and loathing for my presence""

Are you 100% sure that you are right? I have felt hated and
out of place many times, some of them it turned out later
it was me misunderstanding. The people you mention, if
they are strangers you haven`t met before it sounds unlikely
that they will start to hate you so fast. I have been hated for
real many times, some times for good reasons, but its the
thing with not letting people get to you, dont let them get
you down. I have made myself a rule, if someone acts all
pissy towards me and i dont know why, i first try to look at
it rationally, is it my fault? have i done anything that could
defend this attitude towards me? am i misunderstading something
here? If i`m confident that i can answer no to all three Q`s,
then i do my best to think "to hell with them, they want to be
pissy, fine, not my fault or problem". It helped a little, i managed
to not put myself down everytime i thought someone had a problem
with me. I do mistakes, but so do other people, dont assume its
your fault right away, maybe they`re just plain wrong and dumb.
Good luck, dont let them bring you down.

This actually happend a few days ago, a woman i knew some years
back stopped saying hello and just looks so incredibly pissed every-
time i see her, and everytime i feel bad and think "what have i done?"
Until last week. Then i met her again, she looked all pissy again and
didnt even give a basic polite hello and i had had enough. I felt
myself starting to worry and think, but then i thought "screw her,
i haven`t done anything, this is not my fault and it will not ruin
my day dammit!! ! now i`ll forget it and go and make some dinner".
it was nice

oh yes, I remember in one specific class in school last year I was ostracised by every pupil. I was chosen as an easy target and they constantly picked on me, so much so I became severly depressed and needed councilling. It started off small, but eventually it got so bad that I attacked one specific pupil after they had done nothing but constantly bully me all period. Finally the school took notice and placed me in a seperate classroom.

Recipe for Eliciting Hatred and Vitriol

Ingredients:
You, with a hideable alternative neurological condition or two
Family members

To Prepare:
1. Discover by the time you are four years old that your natural inclinations, personality and general existence are so hideous to those around you that you can't even talk to your own mother about it.
2. Grow up and live for several decades hiding all of the behaviours that cause others to comment, assault you, tease you, cast you out, etc.
3. Pretend to be exactly what you perceive others want you to be.
4. One day, simply discard this "shell" character and allow others to begin to know and see your authentic being.

Warning: This recipe can be expected produce a vitriolic and possibly violent reaction by your closest family members. It will expose and focus any hatred, open or latent, that they may harbour, fuelled by their own insecurities. Prepare to no longer have any meaningful relationship with parents, siblings, spouses, children or any extended family. Make alternative arrangements for holidays as you will no longer be wanted at family gatherings. Also be aware that you will be relegated to the "tell eventually" distribution list for major family news, such as births, deaths, engagements, etc., and this news will no longer make it to you in a timely fashion.

As a case study in human socialisation, you will have the opportunity to passively observe the in-fighting, gossip and other predictable reactions to your scandal. Then you will be truly free to move on and start your life without regard for these people. You will also find out who your real friends are.

i feel strongly strongly hated by people i don't know i always feel like everybody knows my deepest darkest secrets and everyones judging me and talking about how much they really cant stand the sight of me behind their backs while being nice to my face, i hide alot of things.

Unless I try, I tend to get negative reactions from some people.
The paranoid think I'm hiding something, but they won't say it.
The insecure are pretty much the same as the paranoid.
The socially talented, and those who think with their emotions hate me, sometimes outright, because I can't be read, and so manipulated.

Yes in so many places on the streets and especially on buses I feel like people's glare's are so judgemental and my head will spin and feeling hated is probaly the best way to describe it, as if im alien to them completly, there are defiantly very few places I feel at peace.

The following groups of people hate me:

Conspiracy theorists who have not convinced me.
Artists that I've exposed as commercial sell-outs.
Atheists that I won't argue with.
Drug dealers that I've testified against.
Feminists that I won't spend money on.
Gays that know I voted for Proposition 8.
Parents whose children I've turned in for various crimes.
Quacks that I've exposed as frauds and con men.
Religionists who have not converted me.

I can't feel hated unless people tell me, the rest is all in my head.

Surley your old enough to leave town if you wanted to? Not like the police can make an adult move back in with their parents. I don't think the police could even tell them where you live without permission. I bet your psychiatrist could always refer you. If you really wanted to go and got it all planned out I couldn't see a problem.

Nah, can't say I feel genuinely hated. I think most people are either oblivious or friendly towards me. Mostly oblivious.

When I was in high school I think I might have been but once I got out of there, the sense of feeling hated disappeared.

same here

When I was a kid I used to get that a lot. Then I got older, learned to 'ride the wave' of socializing, started dressing preppy, worked out a bit, and altogether turned a 180 just to be liked. It worked.

I was also still miserable and eventually decided I didn't need to be liked all that much, so I'm merely cordial with people I don't truly like.

What I'm saying is, be comfortable with who you are first. If you think you smell bad, take a bath. If you think you're not pretty, wear nice clothes and work on your cosmetics. But only do it if you truly want to be that way, not because it's what everyone else likes.