I'm in my mid fifties and started piling on the pounds when I was about 12 and hit puberty. Made it to approx 240 pounds (with about 5 pounds fluctuation, either way), where I stayed for decades, until I had cancer surgery--a total hysterectomy. I gained another 60 pounds after that, and stayed there about 9 years, with again, a fluctuation of about 5 pounds, either way. About a year and a half ago, I started using distraction therapy, and started to gradually lose weight. I've lost about 55 pounds. Dieting would never work for me, although I have been helped by diet modification, which I will keep using. The distraction therapy has also helped a lot, so I will keep using that, too. Can't use exercise, as I have health issues that prevent that, but the other two methods have been working, and I don't have a problem with a slow, gradual weight loss program, as long as it works.
I don't use calorie counting, as I hate being nagged, even by myself, and that's what it seems like to me.
For those that don't know:
- Diet modification involves finding healthier alternatives to some of the foods you eat. You can still eat what you want, and as much as you want, you just try to make healthy substitutions for some of what you are eating. This has almost completely eliminated my lifelong stomach acid problem, because I now seldom eat fried foods. Greasy fried foods was one of the triggers for my stomach acid. I've found alternatives to it. The other trigger is stress. Can't eliminate that one, but have cut down on that by now living alone.
- Distraction therapy involves keeping yourself occupied. In the case of dieting, it means keeping myself busy doing other things, so I go longer between meals. I am the sort of person who will eat a hearty meal no matter how short or long the time between meals is. By going longer between meals, I still eat the hearty meals, but not as many of them, so I consume less calories that way.
These methods have been working well for me. What bothers me is my family. They are never satisfied, and want me to lose tons of weight in as short a time as possible, and can't grasp that there is nothing wrong with a slow, but steady weight loss program. I prefer not to discuss my weight or food intake with them because of their nasty attitude, but they persist in harassing me over it. You'd think that after decades of my being overweight, and not losing any of it, they would be happy for me, over my gradually losing weight. Instead, they just use the slow pace of it as another excuse to jump all over me. Personally, I think losing 55 pounds in a year and a half, as opposed to not losing at all, is great!
My parents wonder why I won't share their snow bird lifestyle, and spend winters down in Florida, living in the same house with them. It's only partly because of the warmer, more humid climate. Mostly, it's because I can't take the constant criticism over every single aspect of my life, including what I eat, how much I eat, when I eat, and how often I eat. I'm in my mid fifties, and have a right to live in peace at home. I realized at a very early age that the only way I would ever be able to do that would be to live alone. It took a long time to achieve that, but I have been fortunate to be doing so for more than 11 years now.
I AM SO GLAD THAT I LIVE ALONE!! !
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If a man does not keep pace with his companions, perhaps it is because he hears a different drummer.
Let him step to the music which he hears, however measured, or far away.--Henry David Thoreau