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13 Dec 2008, 2:13 pm

dear customers...

PLEASE no small talk, I only ask you the questions to efficiently make your order, outside of that, anything else is wasting our time.

I am not interested in your recent colonoscopy...this actually happened. Some old guy starts telling me all about his colonoscopy and I
just wanted to tell him to shut the f up. I meant what makes ANYONE think that ANYONE else would be interested in hearing about a procedure
where a camera is shoved up your butt?

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13 Dec 2008, 5:56 pm

Naturella wrote:

Morgana wrote:

As for empathy, well, I wasn´t aware that I was "changing the definition". Isn´t empathy about feeling, and understanding and/or respecting the feelings of another? I never thought of it as an "ability" before. Maybe you should explain your definition? Are we talking about 2 different things here? I guess it would help to know that first....

Empathy is ABOUT feeling, yes. But it is NOT a feeling.
Empathy:
Webster's dictionary: the projection of one's own personality into the personality of another in order to understand the person better; ability to share in another's emotions, thoughts, or feelings.
Wikipedia:
Empathy is the capacity to recognize or understand another's state of mind or emotion. It is often characterized as the ability to "put oneself into another's shoes", or in some way experience the outlook or emotions of another being within oneself. Empathy does not necessarily imply compassion, or empathic concern because this capacity can be present in context of compassionate or cruel behavior.

(hope I did not misspell the word Wikipedia or somthing...)

Okay, this definition makes sense, and I hold true to what I said originally. Since empathy is about understanding the feelings of another, I think it is much easier to understand the feelings of someone who is like you, and has similar experiences. I don´t think one group of people have more empathy than others, though there does seem to be some variation between individuals.

Oh, you spelled "Wikipedia" correctly, however, you misspelled the word "something". (Ha ha ha...sorry, I couldn´t resist! But I think that was just a typo...)

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15 Dec 2008, 10:59 am

The thing about empathy not being a feeling (though being about feeling) is interesting.

Because I've always heard that we could'nt "feel" empathy. But I've heard some aspies tell that they maybe didn't have a great empathetic feeling towards eg. a person needing help, but rationally recognised that the person needed help, and then provided it. You could call it a kind of rational empathy.

And the projection thing... hm, I wouldn't say it was very much a kind of empathy if you just assume that another one must have the same feeling that you yourself would have in the other one's situation, and then keep on assuming that although the other one says that he's got another feeling. I've experienced that a lot of times (from NTs).

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15 Dec 2008, 3:40 pm

[quote="AnnePande"]The thing about empathy not being a feeling (though being about feeling) is interesting.

Because I've always heard that we could'nt "feel" empathy. But I've heard some aspies tell that they maybe didn't have a great empathetic feeling towards eg. a person needing help, but rationally recognised that the person needed help, and then provided it. You could call it a kind of rational empathy.

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The word "empathy" (I guess because it sounds like "sympathy" ) is often confused with compassion. I have nothing to say about the compassion traits of Aspies. I don't think any generalization in this respect is valid, what's more - I really do not care.
Yet, I think, this is a remarkably amusing thread and I regret that is was flooded with this dull stuff. therefore I can do nothing better but remove this tedious stuff on my part from here. Hope others will also get at least some clue that their thoughtful comments in this topic look hideous.

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15 Dec 2008, 5:35 pm

daer people at work, I will not blow off my friends just to hang out with you

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07 Jan 2009, 6:14 pm

Dear Customers at Market Basket,

When I say "Hello, how are you?" to you, ANSWER ME!! !! I am not a robot who's programmed to say these phrases to you. And if you're going to let your kids make noises, GET THEM The F away from me!

Dear Dad,

If I hear one more thing about my throat, I will EXPLODE!! !! I have been trying to get rid of this habit for 16 years, and now I'm tired of bending over backwards for you over this issue. I work so hard to be a normal person, and yet, it seems like I'm never good enough.

Dear Gina,

I am sick and tired of you ridiculing me about how I train my Pokemon. Do I tell you how to behave around your boyfriend?

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07 Jan 2009, 6:15 pm

Airborne
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07 Jan 2009, 8:11 pm

Stereokid wrote:

Dear Firefox,

When I click on a link, LOAD THE PAGE ALREADY!! !! Stop getting stuck on loading, and get me to the FFFFin page!

The fox of fire does not comprehend....haha I ALWAYS have trouble with my firefox, for the longest time I couldnt have favorites and I had to write down the URLs or put them in notepad docs.

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08 Jan 2009, 5:57 pm

dear Bethan,

Stop being a controlling b***h and taking advantage of my shyness by walking all over me, I swear one day you will have the shock of your eff-ing lifetime

dear mrs percell

Leave me the hell alone because you are annoying and won't stop taking down to me, grr.

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09 Jan 2009, 8:00 pm

Dear Dance Committee,
I'm sorry for running off five minutes after the dance started - I know how hard you worked on it. I just couldn't handle the insane amount of noise that most people seem to love.

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09 Jan 2009, 8:02 pm

Stereokid wrote:

Dear Gina,

I am sick and tired of you ridiculing me about how I train my Pokemon. Do I tell you how to behave around your boyfriend?

Ugh, I get annoyed with that too! I DON'T WANT TO RAISE LEGENDARY POKEMON! It's just not that interesting - it's more fun to have different pokemon each time you play (I play a lot...)

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09 Jan 2009, 9:14 pm

Dear people who are in the same train compartment with me,

please don't start eating mandarins or nuts...

Dear random people on the street,

why do you always ask me of all people for directions?

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10 Jan 2009, 7:25 pm

ebec11 wrote:

Stereokid wrote:

Dear Gina,

I am sick and tired of you ridiculing me about how I train my Pokemon. Do I tell you how to behave around your boyfriend?

Ugh, I get annoyed with that too! I DON'T WANT TO RAISE LEGENDARY POKEMON! It's just not that interesting - it's more fun to have different pokemon each time you play (I play a lot...)

Lol how old are you? Im 15 and Im in 10th grade and whenever my sports teams go on away meets me and my friends play pokemon ALLOT and theres always someone telling me how to raise my pokemon even though I have caught all the pokemon up to 386 and allot of my favorites are 100's....(no cheating either).

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10 Jan 2009, 8:02 pm

Dear Hipsters of Portland,
Why must you act like total as*holes?
Is it because you have no security or is it a permanent state of teen-hood?

Dear New Portlanders who have resided here a minimum of 4-8 months,
Stop reliying on landmarks instead of street names to find your way around.
Do you have no sense of "north, south, west, or east?"
If so, you must no sense of "up" and "down."

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29 Apr 2009, 10:25 pm

Dear Really Cool NT Husband:

Thanks for letting me tell you a story everyday about the imaginary adventures that my stuffed animals have. I know they are not real, and I know that I am 27, but it's nice to know that you play along and accept this quirk.

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30 Apr 2009, 10:53 pm

WhiskeryBeast wrote:

Please stop making small talk to me, I am not interested in you. Thanks.

Wow, I feel like I really fit in here. It's not about that I don't want to talk to people; I crave meaningful interaction! I just have no tolerance for the inane socio-babble that everyone seems to vomit forth on a daily basis.

For me, it's the phone greeting. I answer my phone, "This is Russ". I get "Hi Russ, how are you today". Sometimes, I launch into a lengthy diatribe on exactly how I am just to dissuade them from EVER doing it again. Why can’t they just say, “Hey Russ. My computer network is doing this when it should be doing that.” I find that the people who bypass the insincere compellation are the far more interesting ones. Typically they’re the Ph.D. crowd.

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