Looking in people's eyes..

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My own FATHER told me to look at him cos I look shifty. Thanks for the support, dad!

I can't look someone in the eyes at all. I remember it being brought up in a review in my current job, I mostly work as a technician but sometimes have to deal with customers out the front. In the review I was told that "my lack of eye contact gives people the impression that I'm shy or disinterested." The thing which gets to me is that they keep wanting me to work on it when I don't think it's something that I can change, at least not very easily anyway.

Pick one eye and look at it.
Look when they're talking, look all over the place when you're talking with eye contact about every 10 seconds.

You've got to look at them when they're talking, as much as possible, or they think you don't value what they're saying or just aren't listening. Look at them less when you're talking but make sure to hold their gaze for a beat longer every time you want to emphasize any point you might be making.

regarding your side note, my eyes change colour too! im not sure if its to do with the surrounding colours though. an aspie thing maybe? man we are special.

I don't have a problem LOOKING them in their eyes, but sometimes i do it too much

I'm slowly getting better at it. Still kind of awkward when an attractive female begins to stare into my eyes though. Don't know if I should stare back or look away. What I may just do is sit down with one of my friends, and literally just keep my self focused on their eyes for like 5 minutes straight or something, that way I can get myself in the habit of not minding looking others in the eyes.

I Jump Around And Stuff, Keep Moving My Head So I Dont Have To.