Making friends on WP

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I, msyelf don't have any friends here on WP specifically speaking however, that is cause I rarely make long,comprehensive posts regarding various topics as well, I'm not that fond of speaking of myself for, I feel most of what makes me up as a person overall is probaby mundane or trivial however, don't let things get you down while here on WP cause, eventually you'll find actual people that will choose to align themself with you sincerely speaking.. I hope this has been helpful unto you in a most sincere manner?

People tend to be rather harder to approach on the forums, as they're focusing more on their writing and less on letting their personality show. I'd recommend going on the chat if you're looking for friends. There are a lot of good people there, but just like anywhere else there's also certain people who are best avoided.

Maybe a lot of people with AS rely on others to make the overtures of friendships? And some people don't want to interact any further than just their posts?

Just a theory, not that I can say I have made many WP friends. Possibly because on the few occasions I've been brave enough to think "I'll write to them about so-and -so, as they may not want a comment about it up there on a thread" it has tended to result in no response. Which I can't figure out, as is not my social style (lacking as I might be in many social aspects, aknowledgment of emails is the one I can manage)

It's nice to get PM's but I guess people tire of having to make the majority of the effort with me...even when I think I'm trying hard to show I take an interest in people, I obviously am not or must bore them as tend not to hear from them again and then daren't re- initiate contact for fear of coming accross as stalkerish..

Best wishes for the OP. Feeling shunned is never fun.

You can be my friend I'm willing to put the effort

Aww! I really think I need to clone many copies of you! Thanks!

i have not made any friends on this site. my reason is probably different than yours though.

i am seen as a pr*ck by most people on this site. i guess it is understandable.
the only pm's i ever receive are warnings from moderators or protests from members.

some members pm me to say that they do not want me to post in their threads, and others pm me to tell me that i am not behaving in the spirit of the site, and they ask me to tone it down or go away.

i have had 3 pm's this year. 2 were very hostile and i responded but i did not get any further response.

there are so many people on this site that are above my social station, that i am stupid to waste my time to keep posting here.
i have an NT friend who tells me i am wasting my energy in trying to write to this site because i am never going to be accepted.

he advised me that i am not gifted enough (emotionally or intellectually or experientially) to make an impression here. also he says my personality is not attractive in any way to others, so no one will take the time to read my blocks of text.

i have a hard time taking advice.

since my predicament is different than yours, i will finish my post here.

Although i can't comment on the mods (We do need rules here, rules do need to be enforced and i think they are doing a fine job) i do find the general wrongplanet population to have a group mentality and to enforce rediculous standards onto others. I myself have been shaped by group mentalities, when i was younger noone would hang out with me because one individual disliked me and he was popular. Everyone followed his example like sheep. On occasion people would say to me it's not that i don't like you, but if i hang about with you people will bully me. I think it was a little foolish of me thinking there would be no group mentality here.

Which isn't to say i'm not recieving support here, it's actually been a positive experience, i just suppose it could be better (But name one thing in this world that is perfect )