What is normal eye contact ?

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Sounds like he has a good sense of humour

If it helps, look into a person's eyes until you know what colour they are. If you feel like you are staring, then look at their ear. They will think you're paying attention.

For me, however, I can have an entire conversation without eye contact if I wanted to. I just have to glance at the person I want to speak to every now and then.

i agree

i think that i'm staring after like 0.5 seconds of looking at someones eyes

lol, sometimes it seems like an eternity. Catching someones eyes feels like staring into the sun.

I have the half-second limit also. And my eyes usually dart around. But it doesn't seem to be a big problem. I try to look at peoples' eyes from time to time (usually when they aren't looking at mine).

I just started telling people I'm aspie, and when I mention eye contact they say they never noticed. I think San Francisco is a low eye-contact place because of the different cultures. Sometimes people notice the darting eyes and think I'm bored and want to escape. Maybe they're right <grin>.

That makes me think that i should maybe just wear dark sun glasses all the time and no one could see my eyes

I decide what normal eye contact is. Not other persons or society.

I've been working on eye contact and it's getting better. people look different when you look in their eyes, very hard to describe but it's like there's a light I hadn't seen before at all.

it depends how comfortable i am. i usually try to regualate with looking at them for a couple seconds, glancing to to the side of their head, looking back, maybe staring at something else for a while.....or if your making a point, you can look at their eyes a bit deeper.
eye contact can often make me very uncomfortable.

I"m having internet connection problems (I have a new laptop) but I replied to this but it didn't post. What I said...

I don't have AS but my 9½ year old son does. I CANNOT make eye contact with anyone, don't remember I time when I could, but I think that's 'normal'. I think many people have this problem, I don't think it's an AS problem. I have had other issues in my life that keeps me from looking people in the eyes. I've asked friends about this, I think this is a fairly common thing with anyone.

My AS son says he can't make eye contact but I've watched him and he does much better than I can.

You make eye contact for 2 seconds when you notice the person

If you're talking, you look the whole time
If the other person's talking, you look the whole time

Once the conversation's done, you look somewhere else after 2 seconds.

So yeah, eye contact is basically a 2 second rule.

I've read that when they're talking you should be maintaining eye contact around 50-60% of the time. The rest of the time look at other parts of the face and body especially the hands as they covey a lot of information apparently.

When you're talking you should be looking elsewhere 60% of the time. people including NTs need to look away from the face when talking as there's too much information to be processed when looking at it which interferes with memory and speach processes etc worth remembering for anyone who has problems with that.

the length of eye contact goes up and down depending on how well you know the person too, in a shop you'd make contact once when you greet the cashier and once when you say goodbye, if you want to talk to them at all that is, they're good practice. Looking the whole time might be seen as staring and may be too much for aspies to handle.

I think a majority of people expect some kind of eye contact. But I think your right and a lot of people have problems with eye contact.



wow might as well give up now lol.

Looking for a few seconds makes me feel like I'm staring. And if I can tell someone is uncomfortable talking to me, theres no way I could know for sure that it's because of eye contact/ lack of eye contact. But looking the whole time would be definitely too much for me to handle.

Yeah, you don't have to stare dead in the eyes the whole time. Just make sure you're looking at their face. It makes you look stoned if you're staring dead on one spot for too long.

nooo! that will freak the person out, even NTs. be sure to look around their face and glance to the side of their head as well.