Does anyone like parties?

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I love parties, particularly when I know at least 1 person there. But what I like more are parties with a purpose. Stuff like spiritual mixers, network-based gatherings of financial students and professionals, and the like. When I'm at a party without a purpose, I often feel like I'm wasting time unless I have friends there who are interested in serious conversation / networking. Still, it's great to cut loose, and sometimes I read cards / runes at parties. Alcohol and drugs aren't my thing, though.

Yea I don't do drugs or alcohol either. I don't do the whole happy hour thing because I don't drink at all. But even parties at home where parents friends are very close still is uncomfortable to me. Parents friends go way back 20 years or so. I hate parties that is family related too. Now if someone has dogs, especially young ones under a year old, small size, I'm all good! Just lock me in a room filled with puppies and I'm all set. I never did this. But I wonder if I will be ok if a party is for people who can bring their dogs over. That may be ok since I have a dog and others will have one as well.

The only parties that I go to are family parties, which are not a problem. I always avoid college parties where there's loud music, college students getting intoxicated, fights, etc. Also, I mainly have trouble communicating or socializing with people at louder environments (concerts, night clubs, louder parties, etc).

i enjoy my parties cuz i do it with my good freinds we get drunk stay up late dance play video games play music via dj troy( our freind dj) house partys are the s**t but clubs ,clubs suck ass!! !

I went to my first proper party last night. Several months back, my girlfriend at the time took me clubbing with her and several of her friends - and I was simply baffled. Clubbing and partying, I reasoned using logic, are truly antisocial experiences. When Soulja Boy is being blasted at 120 dB, how can you talk to people? Certainly, the loud music and the packed-like-sardines crowd must serve as a wall, keeping you in your own world: just you and Soulja Boy, dancing to the end of the world.

Perhaps the answer to that paradox, though, is alcohol (though sightly better - though still crap - music could be the the answer. Who knows?). I found that it took a couple beers for everything to start making sense. What was initially a bunch of ex-hipsters dancing embarassingly to Eighties new-wave and early/mid- Nineties Eurodance (eating vegan, gluten-free cupcakes, as well. Yum!) started to seem like what things were supposed to be.

Essentially, some missing link clicked, and now everything makes some degree of sense, though the irony is it took a deliberate maskup of my logical reasoning to get there. No saying whether I like parties, though - that will take a set of more diverse experiences.

That made me laugh, the way you wrote it had a wit that I liked.
And it's true, it's near impossible to have conversations when you have to scream over music, that's what I like about them though an excuse to be antisocial and just dance to music while pretty much ignoring everyone else.

I love parties.

Too bad I rarely enjoy them when I go.

I used to have this problem too in school. I also used to think that people thought bad about me. When you are with a few people you know try to speak up. Do you have something interesting to say? Don't be ashamed. I know it's not easy and I wouldn't waste my breath to people I don't like. I learned to speak in a group when I was doing an Adlerian counselling course. They listened to me and gave me credit for what I had to offer. It was the best thing I ever done.

But parties, no There are too many people talking at once, and then I don't know who to listen to. There might be a party coming up from work but I think most of the co-workers want to go out for a drink. I suggested that we go bowling. I won't go If they go drinking, that will interfere with my medication. They only want to get drunk and be funny. How can it be funny when someone falls over when he is drunk? I think that's sad very sad.

Can you not move out and live on your own? I live alone since I was 23

I really enjoy parties, as long as I a the one throwing them.

Reason being:

When I plan a party, I usually have everything that will happen planned out and itemized, including the food on the table (complete with a drawing of what the table will look like with the food on it, which is the only way for me to tell if I have enough food to feed everybody, and if I forgot some food group). Then I make sure I give myself a job for the whole evening which allows me to detach from the rest of the people (cooking usually does the trick). In between the activities (if any) I just resume cooking.

I came to this realization when my hubby pointed out last summer that everyone had a blast but he missed me all night long. I was hiding behind some drumsticks.

During our last Christmas party I had dinner planned, a gift exchange and bingo. By the time I was done with everything almost four hours had past. Everyone had a lot of fun, but I really didn't relax all night long -- the only thing that made it easier was having everything planned prior.

So, I guess I really hate parties and get togethers but found a very good way to hide that fact.

By the way -- the lists and over-planning, and the need to draw the table with the food on it probably makes me sound like a total nut.

I hate them, as I said in the YMBAAI thread, I spent my family Christmas Dinner party which was held at my grandparents house in their lounge room reading the Silmarillion because there were too many people everywhere else.

Only if it's with people I know and trust and if it's like a family thing there has to be people my age I can "interact" with. Since I hate being alone in parties.
I've never been to like those parties like you see on tv or stuff. They seem too loud and uncomfortable.
I love being at parties with friends or school functions.

I don't exactly know what I like about parties.
My feelings or reactions in parties are not always consistent so I can't tell.

Parties are noisy, boring and banal for me.

I notice that when I get myself drunk, time seems to pass faster, so that's a good thing imo

I like them, but they have frequently been at my house in the past, so that may make me more comfortable with them.

Parties can be fun, provided I can keep some sense of control (i.e. being able to leave/get home whenever I want), and there's at least 2 or 3 people I get on with there. Any less and I tend to annoy whoever I know by being a bit too clingy, too many more and I rarely ever talk to anyone I don't know.

I guess it's a balancing game based on a small gamble of who'll attend. So not too different to most other things.

Fammily partys are fun, even if I'm not talking very mutch. Always enjoyd beeing around people i know, and that knows me.
But regular parties I dont go to at all. Don't know more than one or two there pherhaps, plus that I use hearingaids, and dont hear as much. Then with many convorsitions going at the same time, it's pure hell for me.

I notice that parties get mentioned a lot on WP. I think it would be useful if people first defined what they mean by party. It can mean anything.

My idea of a fun party would be one in which there are only a few people, and the topics of conversation are things like movies, scientific discoveries, knitting patterns, Harry Potter, or fractals. If there is music, it would be played at low volume, in the background. There would be good quality cake and ice-cream. If the guests are drinkers, there would be some nice, tasty alcoholic beverages available, but not to excess. Otherwise, root beer floats! No one would be permitted or encouraged to drive after drinking. Oh, and no new people. Parties, IMO, are not for meeting people. Parties are for eating cake and ice cream and enjoying the company of people you already know and like. And getting/giving new Lego sets.