Touching

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For touching it depends on the person to determine whether I'm conformable with it or not. I do not like to be touched by strangers. I don't have a problem with girls touching me but I will not have guys touch me.

I don't have a problem with being touched.
...Except for water. Do NOT get me wet (in normal clothes).

I generally avoid touching, and feel varying degrees of discomfort when being touched by anyone other than my husband and my son -these I can't get enough of either
I used to live in a country where everyone greets their friends/familly with a kiss, or a kiss and a hug -what an ordeal!! As a child, my mum used to apologise for me and say I was a bit "untamed" when I refused to kiss old aunties with sweaty cheeks and powdery perfumes, yuk.
And I dreaded the "hello" and "goodbyes" at social gatherings because of the long string of small conversations and kisses you were obliged to bestow on fellow attendees.
With time I grew used to it and took it as one of the many discomforts of social life.
It was a relief when I moved to the UK where people tend to go easier on the touchy feely thing.
I still feel uneasy when people like, for example, my work colleagues get too close to me.

I think I am the only very touchy feely Aspie here! I always want to hug my family and put an arm around my friends.

I never learned how to do it right. It seemed too gay at the time. Now i have to catch up. But socializing sucks because i always end up feeling out of the loop.

I never minded shaking hands.

At one time I hated it, but over the last several years hugging girls has really grown on me a lot. Sometimes socializing is harder than others, and when it is, I don't like being caught off guard with a surprise hug or other contact. Otherwise, it's great!

It's nice to be around a group that really isn't that comfortable with touch. For me? Some people, at some times, in some ways. My "little sister" can hug me and that is fine. I can shake hands with just about anyone, though I've found it's nearly impossible to shake someone's hand and look them in the eye at the same time (too much contact, maybe?). I actually like handshakes. High fives are OK, but I sometimes miss, which is just awkward. The first time someone tried to fist bump me I thought she (it was a she, which didn't help) was going to punch me, so I ducked. I love to hold babies and sit with small children on my lap. I love having a cat sit on my lap. One my my cats wraps his paws around my neck and lets me carry him like a baby. That's wonderful. Big touch (deep touch) is much better than light touching. If someone touches me on the shoulder from behind and I'm not expecting it, I will jump a literal foot into the air. Actually, don't even approach me from behind and fail to mention you are there. Don't touch me gently (anywhere), don't play with my hair, don't pat me on the back and don't touch me to wake me up. Tickle me and I will bite you (no, really). The only person currently allowed to kiss me in any way is my 89-year-old great-uncle, and that's once, on the cheek. That sounds awful, but it's true. These rules can change, but it depends on the person and the relationship.

I remember back in 7th or 8th grade, 2 girls I was friends with tried to hug me by surprise, and I ran out of the room, so ya, I don't like being touched... I don't really see the need for it.

I don't like being touched unexpectedly. I can handle it if someone is wanting to hug me or shake my hand, but anything else is unacceptable.

I can deal with it as long as they aren't doing it on purpose just to annoy me. This one girl from my class knows touching bothers me. She poked my foot once and it pissed the hell out of me. All I did was ignore me. She's a little b***h who always fixes her hair in my face during class (I sit behind her). Annoying!

I don't like being touched. Eh, actually I think those who touch me fall into these categories:

(1) Homosexuals. I avoid them though
(2) Maniacs, and
(3) People who I am ordered to touch.

Well that depends. Like with my family I'm fine most of the time. The thing with my Nana is I have to give her a hug and she leans back on her chair so I have to lie on top of her to give ehr a hug which I don't like. She then tells me to give her a better hug if it's too short. It's so irritating. (Btw my Nana is like a mother to me because my mother only plays a small role in my life). And if I want to console a friend, quite often when upset a friend wants a hug or something but I am NOT comfortable with that. If my arms end up around them because of a game or something I don't care because I know I'm sposed to do it but with a friendly hug, when is a friendly hug acceptable? What time and how close do you have to be. Hugging someone you don't know much is a definate no but a close friend? A best friend? Things just get so complicated with body language, I'm even reading a book on it because it's all so complicated. I wish people just said what they meant and meant what they said.

Tactile contact is not necsaary