Do you find it difficult to explain yourself?

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I have a hard time explaining myself a lot not only because I have to think about how to word my answer sometimes, but I get nervous about even saying anything. Like in art class, my teacher once got frustrated with me and as she walked away, I simply decided not to try explaining at all because it was too nerve-wracking even to tell her why I did what I did.
Explaining myself can be hard for multiple reasons, but if I calmly think of what I want to say and just say it, then I realize it's a lot less painful than I thought at the beginning.
But most of the time when I do explain, I analyze all the flaws and little things about what I said for maybe even hours afterward and what I got "wrong", for instance.

In a situation a thought may occur to me and if I don't say it out loud it goes into the processing loop.

I'll think about it, think I should have said it, wished I would have said it, replay it, come up with something else to add to it, replay that then rephrase the first though to encompass the new thought, and so on.

Eventually I've thought all sorts of things that could have been contributed to the conversation but when theres an opportunity to contribute I've gone off on a tangent and its no longer relevant or have replayed the original thought and subsequently rejected it.

Or I'll bring up something I've thought about in the past and feel the need to convey the entire processing loop as part of the discussion. People are rarely interested in the entire life of the thought from inception to current state.