Being judged by appearances

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People think I'm creepy too, but because I dress gothic I think it is almost expected. Personally, I like creepy people. If I'm on a bus and have to sit down by some stranger, I will probably chose to sit next to the one who everyone thinks is creepy and I think has the best chance of having a good sense of humor.

I have not got the confidence to change my hairstyle. All I have is that really plain hairstyle where I tuck my hair behind my ears and the rest just hangs long. It does me no justice, but if I don't have the confidence to change my hairstyle. I know most people crave for compliments, but I don't. I don't want to walk into work one day and have everyone saying, ''oh I like your hair'',''your hair looks nice'', ''ohh you had your hair done,'',''your hair looks so different,'' and so on. These comments are very nice, but I can't really be arsed with it. I don't like too much social attention over a silly hairstyle, and I know I look plain and boring, but changing my hairstyle won't suit how I am. Also, if I had a new hairstyle I would have to keep it up all the time, and because I have AS and Dyspraxia, I find it difficult to groom myself. I'll probably end up in a right mess and then wish I had the hairstyle what I had before. I like things to be simple for me, because I find unnecessary responsibilites difficult to maintain.

I can't be arsed to keep up a good appearance. I am attractive anyway, why go over the top?

Try not to stare at things (or nothing, for that matter) for too long. Also, if you are too serious people will think you are always mad about something. It took me a while to learn, but people find that to be unsettling. Just pay attention to yourself when in public places and you should be fine.

I'm sometimes labeled as "gothic" and people often assume that I'm some kind of "hardcore guy". People are also quick to comment on my height (Six feet isn't thaaat tall.) and my physique. I'm a bit out of shape, at the moment, but more muscular than average guys. I'm often asked "HOW MANY FIGHTS HAVE YOU BEEN IN?". I've been in very few fights and I despise violence. Then there are the people who think that I'm a creep, because of how serious I am most of the time. Some of them are evasive, or even verbally attack me when I try and talk to them. I think that a lot of people do find me intimidating. I try to be friendly and outgoing, but it seems to fail. I get all kinds of attention that I don't want, especially from highschool kids. Many of my peers seem to think that I'm some kind of alien.

@ generichomosapien:

I like "creepy" people, too. They seem more interesting, at a glance. Many of them really are. Having the balls to look different is good. The one thing that I look down on, as far as appearances... is when people strive to look like a particular trend, in order to fit in. Even then, you can't judge a book by it's cover. I've been surprised quite a few times.