Do you hate you grew apart from past friends?

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I wish that I would have more chance meetings with people that I knew from high school and before, just to meet up with someone that I am familiar with. I sometimes find it strange that I live only blocks from some of these people, but again see them only at the class reunion or go out of my way to see them. I live in the same town that I grew up in.

I know that this might seem a little odd, but has anyone ever just went to the grocery store, local Target, shopping center, etc in the hopes of running into a childhood friend/classmate? I catch myself doing this out of boredom every once in a while. Most times, it turns up nobody.

That happened to me once, but it was an ex boyfriend that worked in the tech department of walmart. I found out later that it was just a temp job. Maybe, if you know their names, you could call them from the phone book or Yahoo people search? There is a few sites that you can find someone by their maiden name but they cost money...not much though. Then of course there is always...what do I say?? Well lets hope they remember you, but if you were good friends then chances are they haven't forgotten you and are probably wondering about you too.

just go home and close the door and most of my Asperger's just fades away



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No. I thank God every day because they were ruining my life. I was better off on my own.

. I thank God every day because they were ruining my life. I was better off on my own.

In hindsight I'm inclined to agree.

Sinsboldly your AS? on one of the YOU TUBE Vids people their had some unkind things to say about you they seem to think your NT , complaints about you being overzealous as a moderator?

I do and I don't.

I have one friend who is still my friend, 20 some years later, but we lead totally different lives now. We are about the closest though I am to any of my friends.

One of my friends from high school I do feel bad we've drifted apart, but he moved to another state and we disagree politically now, and it's just not what it once was.

Really though, I would rather sit at home and read than "hang out" with friends, so I guess I don't care.

Facebook, although I was reluctant in the beginning to join, has been an essential tool for me to keep in contact with friends. Before, I used to feel embarrassed or lost on what they've been up to, so I was less likely to shoot them an email or give them a call.

It has also been difficult for me to keep my list small, like I had originally intended. I feel bad when someone wants to friend me and I ignore them. It's not that I don't like them, but maybe it's been a million years and we have separate lives now, or maybe it's that I like to speak freely on my FB page and don't want anyone in that might be offended when the filters I apply out of courtesy for them disappear.

I have a decent size group of friends that I've known for a decade and a half. We're all the freaks, geeks and weirdos from High School that were picked on for being strangely different. That's all I need, really. Sure I often wonder what so-and-so from elementary school is doing, but that's all it is-- wondering.

To be honest I would have very little in common with people I was friends with in primary or high school and I never really made friends at university. Sure, I hung out with people at university but they were more friendships of convenience than anything else.

Can't say as I hate it. I mean if I did grow apart from them and I hated it when socializing isn't exactly a part of me well, then that would be hating a part of me. And, I want to like who I am. Before I got diagnosed, I hated myself immensely. I don't want to go back there if I can help it. I don't like to dwell on what the could have beens and what if's in life. It has a tendency to depress me. I have no real life friends because of how/who I am and I'm ok with that and content. I wouldn't mind having a friend I guess but I'm not going to go out of my way to form one. If it happens, it happens. If it doesn't it doesn't. The merry old world still keeps on spinning regardless.

I can't even do Facebook. I do have an account but don't use it. I just....I don't understand the point really.

I think some relationships are shorter than others, so it doesn't really bother me. For most of them, I don't care. It was fun while it lasted, now I have other things to do. There are a few I enjoyed being around, but that's ok, too. I really like being by myself or with my family. They understand me.

I feel regret over the social blunders I made that ended the friendships, and the hurt that I caused people unintentionally.

I had a good friend back in 6th grade, but with time we grew apart and I don't know where he is now...

I don't know, in some ways yes and in some ways no. I dislike the fact that I have had friends over the years and now I hardly have any but there usually is a good reason those friendships didn't work out.

in most cases so called 'friends' i had were not really friends at all, just acquaintances and always had ulterior motives

these days i dont have many friends at all. just 2 in fact and its normally weeks if not months between any contact

because of the past, i dont trust people much so i dont miss those old friends anyway they were manipulative and cruel