Question of WP members who are loners...

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Gosh, it's not. Who gives you a hard time about that? And plus, (no offense intended) but at your age people often are somewhat less active socially than the younger crowd, so it's totally reasonable where you're coming from.

no one gives me a hard time about that. I was expressing myself to the topic of this thread.
what do you mean 'at my age?' what you you know about people my age? (just because one says 'no offense intended' doesn't make it not offensive)

Uh, whoopsie much?

Choice.


Yes, I'm very afraid of that.


Yes, I don't know what I would do if people doubted how amazing I can be.


Because I'm a jerk.


Thank you, Mr. Jesusman!
You have stayed my Death Ray machine! I will now enter a fullfilling career as a hairdresser or similarly non-villainous profession!

You're making quite an assumption there.

Firstly, I'm an introvert because I was born this way. I didn't rewire my brain because one day I got fed up with being a people person.

Two main things factor into my preference for my own company- the things I enjoy are solitary activities, and I don't really get anything out of social contact: most of the time it leaves me bored out of my skull and counting the seconds until I can leave without being rude.
Social contact is also very tiring. If I want to not collapse, much solitude is neccessary.
I don't fear judgement or people's doubt. I know that I'm very good at what I want to be good at, and I actively go out and show that to people.
I don't hate the world. I enjoy many things, just not the social aspect of the world so much. I make an effort to go out of my comfort zone in things that aren't related to socialising. I don't see why I should have to constantly engage in an activity that is both boring and tiring, and that takes me away from things that I really enjoy.

A lot of things about solitude appeals to me. When I'm alone, I'm anxiety free. I know that when I'm alone I can feel very comfortable with myself and not have to worry about any conflicts. Plus I always enjoy some nice alone time to unwind. Overall being alone is simply something that I'm very use to and I never have to worry about anything.

after searching 'urban dictionary' to figure out what you might mean by "Whoopsie" (everything from 'gay' to 'human excrement') I can see that instead of you understanding that you were making assumptions about a person's age, you are just blowing it off like it is my fault for not letting you get away with being a jerk.

I can't say I quite understand a response like "Uh, whoopsie much?" but I took it to mean an honest expression of embarrassment and contrition. Maybe I just saw "whoops" and didn't consider it any further.

Also you have to figure it came from a kid. Kids often make assumptions about older people and express them in ways that are... well... awkward.

The poster might have meant it in an offensive manner, but in the end, I don't know that it is really worth making an issue out of it. If they are an offensive person, that's their problem. If not, there's no need to get upset.

Lars

I am paralyzed by self-doubt, so pretty much the reverse of narcissism...mostly my being a loner comes from ineptness and shyness.
Also being around people is too intense for me. Too much stimulation, that even if I like who I'm with I don't end up enjoying myself.
I do enjoy being alone sometimes, I take great pleasure in my interests and hobbies.
But I am not a loner online! Because it is easy for me to communicate via text.

Thanks to this post, I just lol'd so hard, in the middle of lecture too.

Interesting, I don't remember seeing this part when I posted my first reply. It's not about hating the world and wishing that it would go away. It's about being able to function properly and to balance time to unwind with time to interact. As Who_Am_I said, you're making an assumption, and I'm assuming that this assumption is based on your own experience. Just because you choose/chose to be alone at some point in your life because you wanted to be left alone and hated everyone around you, doesn't mean that other people do this for the same reasons. A lot of us don't have much choice but to be alone most of the time after having a difficult time being accepted by at least someone, having at least one person to be able to trust. I've lost so many friends that I don't have much hope in making and keeping new ones anymore.

Of course I do need to spent some time alone, but overall I'm not alone by choice; I just don't know much how to have friends.

I don't hate the world, the world hates me.

*bow*

Solitude is where I can be me. Where others don't heckle you or try to have a chat with you.
I'm am the least narcissistic person out there.

I'm not wasting my time being alone. I learn more and do more productive things when I'm alone.
When I socialise I often pause and think 'wow, we're actually talking about this? I could go home and do some writing or get a new special interest, or gaze at the stars through my telescope.' Thing is, when I socilaise I feel I'm wasting time.
I also get exhausted the next day and need to recharge my social batteries, which takes about a week.
I don't want to world to go away. Sometimes I can get sick of people, especially the over extraverted ones that comment on everything. I'm still kind of social. I don't like being around groups but I can chat individually to each person in the group. Once or twice a week of socialization is enough for me.

Lars,
CT222 and I have been discussing this in PM and have apologized to each other for any miscommunication that might have happened. I have to say, CT222 is a stand up guy that isn't interested in taking cheap shots at the aged and was glad to clear up any issues he might have assumed incorrectly. Thanks, CT222!

Merle

Hi Merle,

That's great to hear. Thanks for letting us know it's been worked out.

Lars