How many good friends do people have?

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i only have one person i could honestly call a friend

i don't even know if i'd call him an especially close friend, but it's all I got

I gone thru periods in my life where i've had a couple friends but they never developed outside of school and were over pretty quickly

I still have one very good one. It used to be a few, but people moved around with jobs. They're all far away now. Phone calls are not really the same. Plus whenever I feel like calling, I realize they're already in bed in their time zone.

I have three. Of course, I don't see them outside of school. I didn't even miss them in my six week break. They help me get through the day, one of them is nice enough to do some of my talking for me (asking questions, comments etc.) The other two are bad ay social activities as well, still, they like the same things I do and never play mind games so they make good friends.

I counted. I have 12 good friends! 10 from college and 2 from group therapy. 2 of them are somehow my "best" friends because we share most things together, but this 2 are not much social (that must be the reason I get along well with them!) and don't talk to my other friends. They live at other cities now. The 2 from group therapy are the ones I see more often. Also we have a group of four who meet regularly. It seems that they all want to be academics. They are struggling with their doctorships. There is another one who is also my best friend and is a sort of genius (at least for our standards) I used to talk a lot with him because he was more mature.The others I see occasionally but are also fun and we used to go out!

one or two.

I would say I have exactly three, two of which live out of state and none of which I regularly keep in contact with (not just me contacting them, it goes both ways). Only one of those is really dependable, and he is of the opposite sex and much older than me so sometimes it feels like I have less in common with him than my other two friends. I talk to people at school (I'm in junior college-I call it 13th grade), but no one seems to be in the market for friends. The majority are commuters.

I think I have one.

I have gone years in my life without having any at all.

I find I can not sustain friendships and a romantic relationship at the same time. I have tried and failed over and over, now that I know about AS I have to assume it is a valid limitation and will no longer kick myself over it =)

When I decided to divorce my now ex-husband I realized I HAD to make some friends for support. I now have plenty (for me). I have 3 that I see about once a week and 2 that I see about once a month. I am building on a new friendship and at this point I see her once or twice a month. I dislike talking on the phone, so the extent is something like: "Hi. Do you want to go to the park on Tuesday at 4? Great! See you then." I will usually answer if they call me and try to listen if they are having a bad day. Other than that I text and use facebook. I get teased occasionally about the phone issue, but in general it works for me and hopefully it works for them!

I also have working relationships (though I would not say friendships) with two of my exes and could rely on them in any sort of emergency. In fact, I am still more comfortable talking to them than I am to my friends. Funny huh?

When I was about 25 I had a group of 2 or 3 girlfriends. The kind you can sit around the kitchen table with, drink coffee and snark it up. But then this one got married, that one went to graduate school out of state, etc. etc. and I haven't had that since. I was always the quiet one but that was OK. Lately my friendships, which I don't consider real friendships, are people who have already alienated everyone else. Then they find spineless, would rather choke than be openly rude me.They start out by asking me one favor (which is fine, I'm happy to help) and then another and then suddenly I'm trapped as this person's sounding board. I'm talking about someone who has nothing to talk about but how the world done them wrong. Any suggestions are met with " Yes, but the problem with that is..."Bleah. OK shutting up now. My sister is in town, I see her rarely because she lives about 13 hour drive away, and it was so nice to have a real conversation.

To be honest, only one bosom buddy. The others are friends that share common interests, or good acquaintances that I see and can shoot the bull with. I wish I had more female friends though!