Friends who blow hot and cold

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I had a friend who did this to me recently. She was friendly to me one moment, then the next moment, she was friendly to everyone else except me. I wonder why I was singled out, I wonder what went wrong in our friendship.
It sure hurts, doesn't it. People changed their feelings so easily, one minute they like you, the next minute they dislike you.

I have decided to withdraw myself from that "friend" of mine and disappear from her life forever. I don't believe in forcing myself into people's life. Since she doesn't value my friendship, then there is no point for me to hang onto her friendship any longer.

I just wish I can find a friend who is loyal and reliable and who doesn't blow hot and cold with me, but I don't think they even exist in this world.

This is so funny because there is a guy who also has AS like myself who has pulled this kind of thing on me, several times. He usually has done it to me whenever he wanted something that met HIS agenda. For example, he most recently found out that I play Dungeons and Dragons and was begging me to join our campaign. Why two weeks ago, he was getting himself ready to join our campaign without realizing that approval needed to be cleared with the game master first. When he found out that we were not playing that same week due to the GM being out, he started ignoring me. He also signed off every time I logged onto skype.

He also pulled this on me three years ago by offering me to read a story of his and ask questions about it. He was acting like my best friend and coming up to talk to me. Then he discovered that I have a friend who was showing things that turned him off. Then the next thing he disappeared for several months without communication though I had wished him happy birthday and sent him a card. Then I saw him at a convention and he was either mad that I was in the same room or stood a few inches away from me texting on his phone.

When he doesn't get what he wants, he tells me that I things that bother him and can't hold conversations with him because they aren't smart enough. He also made excuses about not being to voice chat with a group of us because I am on there due to claiming that my voice is too grating on his ears.

He has also told others behind my back that he dislikes me and doesn't want anything to do with me. He also has called me a "Spazz" behind my back.

So I have decided to drop him like a hot potato because he is going to continue to play these games with me and I am not going to take it because he is destructive and toxic. Besides, I am on a different path than he is along with him not really having good supports and is basically a basket case with no career and no life.

Regarding these kinds of people they are going to treat you like a yo-yo and it isn't going to end until they realize that something is wrong with then. So just ignore them.