Do you like friendly NTs?

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I don't know if you mean a seemingly friendly stranger or NTs in general. A friendly stranger I would be wary of, but as for friends, yeah...all my friends are NTs. I don't know any aspies in real life (I've met a couple, but none that are peers).

I'm an NT but I'm a b***h

I respect anybody who actually takes the time to get to know me, rather than just passing me of as "that strange girl" and judging me. And then I get to know them, and gradually get to like them. I don't throw myself at people, but I do make much more of an effort than I used to.

I do like friendly NTs, who are thoughtful and considerate. I don't like shallow, superficial people, period.

Yes, I like friendly NTs as well. If they suddenly change how they treat me later on after knowing me better though, then I'll respond accordingly.

Well I get that issue, but that's my issue and not because of them. I'm nice back though, but I don't really trust them. It's more like, "just in case" they go mean, I won't have anything to lose.

I do not like any people who try to act too friendly to me to fast, especially people who try to touch me. Those actions signal red flags for me for abusive personalities.

I've met a lot of sarcastically friendly NT's It's hard to tell. I like polite people though...Not "politically correct," but polite.

No. The ones that are too "in your face" annoy me until I can't take it anymore and I litteraly scream, "Get away from me you f****n' perve!" If people actualy touch me, I WILL fight back. I know I'm going to get arrested for asult sooner or later if total strangers don't stop touching me.

If, by friendly, you mean one who exhibits behaviors which would facilitate friendship, then generally no. I usually I get along best with the let's get down to business types. Our efficiency as a unit being the basis for our friendship, if it comes into being at all.

I don't know any friendly NT's. Most people avoid me like I have the plague.

Depends on how you define friendly. If you mean the kind that wants to have small talk with you and try to get you to talk even when you don't want too, then no, I tend not to like them. They also turn out to not be so friendly should you want to avoid small talk, usually by not saying anything back. I even have a feeling that people that tend out to be "too friendly" usually are, especially a young male interacting with whom he thinks is a female in online nerd or geek communities. I do tend to give people a fair chance and not be negative or positive toward complete strangers before they give me any reason to have a reaction to their behavior.

Me too. Looking back on the number of "NT's" (in quotes, because I'm not entirely sure the folks I'm talking about are really typical), that have "attached" themselves to me, showing a lot of interest etc. have tended to be very parental type folks.

In the case of these people, I've come to the conclusion that there was "something in it for them."

An inordinate number of them have been subtly controlling types. Acting like I need supervision and guidance.

I'll be the first to admit I have needed guidance beyond what is normally needed for a person at whatever age I was during those times, but the sort of guidance I'm talking about, the sort of guidance that many of them seemed to dole out, was intrusive, and overbearing.

None of them are part of my life anymore. None were for very long at all. These days, I've learned to spot the type from a distance, and they don't get that close anymore. It isn't worth it. It's lead to near disasters more than once, and I just don't need or want the drama anymore.

Still, some manage to sneak past the subtle barriers I put up against people like that. But when they do, and start in with that crap, they get, well...

And I leave them:

Heck! It beats

Yes.

My best friend is a NT. I don't think he has ever judged me since I've known him(met when we were 5ish.) He's a bit of a ladies' man and very into/good at sports, whereas i'm far more reserved and less inclined to sports It's interesting to have someone that close to you and so different from you because you can poke around in their mind and figure out how they think. It's like a breath of fresh air to see things from someone elses' perspective, even if you don't agree with them.

I guess it depends on what you mean by friendly. In terms of the kind of person who approaches you, engages you and actually listens, yes, I like that (if they're not annoying) because it's easier for interact if they are initiating it. I have rarely initiated contact myself with someone who I thought looked nice, and when I have, it usually did not go well at all. Most of the people I have ended up friends with were "friendly" to me to begin with and somehow saw through my usually off-putting demeanor.

On the other hand, a lot of the people who are usually described as friendly want to chit-chat about moronic things or "draw you in" to a group conversation. These are the kind of people who are always asking if you are okay and saying you are sure quiet and feel it is their duty to make sure everyone is having a good time (i.e. acting bubbly and falsely cheerful like them). I try to interact with these people as little as possible.