Basics of Fashion and appearance for Male Aspies

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11 May 2010, 7:12 pm

I dress stictly for comfort. If it's cool out, I'll wear blue jeans, white socks, black shoes, a cotton T-shirt (with or without a logo/design). And if it's really cold or raining or something, I'll wear a black leather jacket or a windbreaker. If it's warm out, I'll wear jean shorts and sandals. Socks/shoes can be too warm.

With the exception of an event like a job interview, I never wear the following:
long sleeve shirts
ties
sport jackets / blazers
slacks
black socks
shirts with collars

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11 May 2010, 7:45 pm

CosmicRuss wrote:

Sound wrote:

Just don't pretend there's no social consequences for lack of attention.

So what is dress-down Friday all about then ? That`s socially acceptable isn`t it ?

'Dressing down' doesn't represent paying no attention to your presentation. Just as being 'dressed up' does not necessarily mean you look good. You're free to dress up or down as whatever situation asks.

In either case, however, if you do not look good, there are social repercussions. This would be true at the office on casual Friday, it would be true with whatever you're wearing if you visit a restaurant and are trying to get the waitress' attention, it would be true if you're bothering someone on the street for the time of day. Nearly 100% of people subtly discriminate based on looks(some more or less than others). Clothes is the most significant part of that, as well as the element one has the most control over.

The better one dresses, the better life will treat them.

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12 May 2010, 6:56 am

Sound wrote:

The better one dresses, the better life will treat them.

Thank you for the explanation Sound, places I worked at didn`t have dress at work policies so I never got the chance to wear PJ`s to work.

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13 May 2010, 5:25 pm

Sound wrote:

CosmicRuss wrote:

I say there are far more important things to happy living other than following fashion rules.

There was a time not all that long ago, when all of us ran naked being chased by wild animals.

I buy everything about 4 sizes too big because I hate restriction around my body and I also find fashion rules restricting of people`s individuality.

And you are free to do that. If it feels good, that's great.

Just don't pretend there's no social consequences for lack of attention.

Exactly. The key to successfully interacting with people is to not be offputting or jarring in anyway. Dressing well and appropriately is part of not being jarring or offputting.

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14 May 2010, 12:32 pm

White tee-shirt, dark jeans, black shoes, just about every day. I dress up for occasions, but only so the irrationally intolerant can't discredit me on looks alone.

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14 May 2010, 2:42 pm

RICKY5 wrote:

Charcoal Grey Suit ...

Shirts
Long sleeve shirts all the way. Good colors to have are deep blue, deep red, purple, deep salmon, and metallic green. The George brand from WalMart

Jeans

I think those shirt colors are a terrible suggestion with either a charcoal suit or with jeans. With a suit, wear shirts that are white or off white. With jeans, darker shirts may be okay, but so are short sleeved T shirts. Whatever you do, don't wear the suit and jeans together.

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Khaki Pants
Bland and boring and they only look good on male models

Khaki pants look terrible alone, I agree. They look great with navy blazers, though.

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15 May 2010, 6:00 am

RICKY5 wrote:

The goal for men's fashion to is non-verbally convey that you have money and appear socially smart.

Needless to say you do not have to spend a lot of money to appear socially tuned in. You just have to spend your money smartly. Dressing well will help you in social situations and at work.

Things you will need to do and get

Get your measurements
Go into a men's clothing store like Jos A. Bank Clothiers and they will do your measurements for free. Write your measurements down on your IPhone or notebook.

Charcoal Grey Suit
Think of this as the canvas on which you paint.Your shirt and tie are going to be the centerpieces of your outfit.

Shirts
Long sleeve shirts all the way. Good colors to have are deep blue, deep red, purple, deep salmon, and metallic green. The George brand from WalMart

Shoes
Black all the way. I recommend Clark brand. They are comfy, not ugly, and reasonably priced ($80).

Jeans
Dark blue is a safe bet.

Ties
Purple goes well with Green. Green goes well with purple. Neon green goes well with deep blue and red.

Things to not wear

Khaki Pants
Bland and boring and they only look good on male models

Jean Shorts
These are just awful...

Khaki shorts
The color is lame and nobody wants to see your chicken legs!

Short-sleeve Shirts of any sort
Unless you are a hulked out bodybuilder, these do not look good on you. These are even worse if you have a few extra pounds.

Company Logo Shirts
These make you look like a pauper who will wear anything that he is given.

White Tennis Shoes
These should only be worn when working out. They are a double-whammy against you if you wear them with khaki pants or shorts.

I wouldnt consider someone who wore any of those suggestions to be socially tuned in

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