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11 Jun 2010, 8:19 am

my experience in college with other AS people have been disheartening too. Thjere were some girls I hung out with that had AS too and they seemed to always put me down, belittle me, and compare their level of functioning with mine. One person in particular always told me what I was incapable of doing as a career choice. Anything I wanted to do, she would tell me why I was unable to do it. I have never treated anyone like that in my life as my mother has always supported what I wanted to do with the exception of acting as a career. I am sorry you had such horrible experiences with such shallow people. My therapist told my mom that because I have PDD that I am emotionally and socially alot younger than my physical age, maybe these other people are the same way in that even though they are in college, they are developmentally about high school age which would account for the likewise behavior. Maybe if you wait it out for a few years or hang out with older AS gamers...your peers will be less into crazymaking.

note to thehaywire: sounds like you were blacklisted because of someone did not like you being jewish...you should hire a private investigator and an attorney


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11 Jun 2010, 9:20 am

I have no idea what I did to offend you CaptainTrips222. I was trying to help out.

I have been rejected by geeks myself. Then I met other geeks who were also rejected by geeks and we formed our own group. It was liberating. There was no context I expressed toward you that was negative in any way and I was not playing any head games with you.

If you want to ignore my posts you can but I will make it clear that I was doing nothing but trying to help. I have a bad habit of coming off as a condescending know-it-all but this is not my intention. I wish I knew how to mince my words so I could stop offending people. Anyway good luck in meeting new people whoever they happen to be.



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13 Jun 2010, 10:44 pm

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I'm in my late 20's too and just recently got out of the goth/industrial subculture. So definitely don't feel bad hehe.

I guess my situation was different because I was a semi-known modern industrial artist but the way that industry treated me was beyond horrible. I really thought I'd found a community I'd belonged in a for a while too. Yet once my music started getting big and I started getting excited about this since it was such an extreme interest for me... holy crap... those people were worse to me than they were in middle school. According to these people I was way too eager and excited about the music I'd found an extreme passion for. It was so bad they threatened me sexually, interfered with my business, mutilated my images, threatened me for being Jewish... I don't even wanna get into it. And all I wanted was to hang out with people who shared my obsession.

Yet now I have my own community full of amazing people. Friends, fans, misfits, outcasts, intellectuals, eccentrics, musicians, artists, filmmakers... what we don't share is a subculture. What we share is a community.


I knew a couple of folks into goth/industrial back in middle school. Biggest d*****bags I have ever known. Your experience sounds like that Morissey song "We hate it when our friends become successful".

I also saw the same crap in college. There was this one guy who was wealthy (but socially inept and obese) who bought everyone booze and bars and parties, but those same people gladly getting booze from him, were the first to talk about him behind his back. It happens everywhere.



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14 Jun 2010, 11:02 am

RICKY5 wrote:
TheHaywire wrote:
I'm in my late 20's too and just recently got out of the goth/industrial subculture. So definitely don't feel bad hehe.

I guess my situation was different because I was a semi-known modern industrial artist but the way that industry treated me was beyond horrible. I really thought I'd found a community I'd belonged in a for a while too. Yet once my music started getting big and I started getting excited about this since it was such an extreme interest for me... holy crap... those people were worse to me than they were in middle school. According to these people I was way too eager and excited about the music I'd found an extreme passion for. It was so bad they threatened me sexually, interfered with my business, mutilated my images, threatened me for being Jewish... I don't even wanna get into it. And all I wanted was to hang out with people who shared my obsession.

Yet now I have my own community full of amazing people. Friends, fans, misfits, outcasts, intellectuals, eccentrics, musicians, artists, filmmakers... what we don't share is a subculture. What we share is a community.


I knew a couple of folks into goth/industrial back in middle school. Biggest d*****bags I have ever known. Your experience sounds like that Morissey song "We hate it when our friends become successful".

I also saw the same crap in college. There was this one guy who was wealthy (but socially inept and obese) who bought everyone booze and bars and parties, but those same people gladly getting booze from him, were the first to talk about him behind his back. It happens everywhere.


I saw something sorta similar. This guy I knew would buy gifts to ingratiate himself with people who had status in the goth subculture, but it always seemed he ended up hated and abused by those people. Weird.



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17 Jun 2010, 10:29 pm

CaptainTrips222 wrote:
RICKY5 wrote:
TheHaywire wrote:
I'm in my late 20's too and just recently got out of the goth/industrial subculture. So definitely don't feel bad hehe.

I guess my situation was different because I was a semi-known modern industrial artist but the way that industry treated me was beyond horrible. I really thought I'd found a community I'd belonged in a for a while too. Yet once my music started getting big and I started getting excited about this since it was such an extreme interest for me... holy crap... those people were worse to me than they were in middle school. According to these people I was way too eager and excited about the music I'd found an extreme passion for. It was so bad they threatened me sexually, interfered with my business, mutilated my images, threatened me for being Jewish... I don't even wanna get into it. And all I wanted was to hang out with people who shared my obsession.

Yet now I have my own community full of amazing people. Friends, fans, misfits, outcasts, intellectuals, eccentrics, musicians, artists, filmmakers... what we don't share is a subculture. What we share is a community.


I knew a couple of folks into goth/industrial back in middle school. Biggest d*****bags I have ever known. Your experience sounds like that Morissey song "We hate it when our friends become successful".

I also saw the same crap in college. There was this one guy who was wealthy (but socially inept and obese) who bought everyone booze and bars and parties, but those same people gladly getting booze from him, were the first to talk about him behind his back. It happens everywhere.


I saw something sorta similar. This guy I knew would buy gifts to ingratiate himself with people who had status in the goth subculture, but it always seemed he ended up hated and abused by those people. Weird.


People are usually s***** by nature. You're surprised when you find good ones. Personally I think the goth/industrial subculture is packed with losers who need to put others down so they can feel good about themselves.

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