Just got dissed on Facebook

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Aimless,

if it makes you feel any better, I have been dissed on Facebook by a few people as well.

Even if they appear nice to me in person, my theory is that they want to take it out on me (on Facebook) in front of other people so it makes them look better and they feel better about themselves. They probably know that we aren't initially aggressive, so they think it's ok to diss us.

I recommend that you greatly reduce your contact with this person, and not actively seek their friendship. They don't respect you, and you don't have to reciprocate their mean-ness and superficiality.

Let's try desensitizing therapy, to help build your "immune system". We'll start one letter at a time, then move to capitals, then use exclamation marks.
Ready? Let's begin:

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i don't understand how "norm" is supposed to be insulting. was this guy affiliated with any subculture/s?

This thread should die.It's old.I was feeling weird when I started it and it's possible the "NORM!" guy (who I don't know) wasn't even referring to me. I am less hypersensitive and paranoid regarding social issues but the old bugaboo is still there. Let's just drop it.

Next time you're in a situation similar to this, if it is a person you do know, you can use Facebook as a tool to help you figure out who your true friends really are. It is hard to do this, but can work to your advantage too if you can use it like this!!

This has helped me in some cases cause I haven't been always good with situations or irl direct contact. I can learn, but I have caught on slower in many cases. I catch on much faster now more often, but it's been a long time for me to even get to this point.

I've always had trouble with social networking mainly for the reason that some people abuse it. It hurts me just as bad to be criticized and insulted on a site where I have to be open just as it does in real life. Some people have thicker skins for that crap.

I seldom use facebook and cannot keep up with the blah blah blah jibber jabber about people's own personal lives. Not that I don't care about what's going with someone, but I can only handle so much. I guess this is one of the reasons why I don't have friends irl.

What I do is stay away from facebook whenever there's a problem and then log in again...

Don't run away. Ignore it. It was a jerk thing to do. This is why I only add people who are my friends to my facebook. I have a lot of friends who are friends with people who bullied me, so that makes things hard, but I just do my thing.

I know that this sounds curt, but sometimes you are not the intended audience of a Facebook posting. People many times post something so that certain people and/or groups of people know what is going on.

A good example of this is that I posted a concert date on my Facebook page of a high school classmate, who is now a Broadway star, is putting on a show in our area. While I don't care who sees (and responds to) the posting, it was more intended for my high school classmates and those I am Facebook friends with who are into the arts. Unfortunately, the way Facebook is set up, it can be very difficult to direct a message to a specific audience.

I was guilty as well of responding to a post made by a friend last week regarding a charity that he is involved in. I told him I was willing to make a small contribution to the charity, whom should I send the check to? I never heard back from him. I think it may of been due to the fact that I wasn't the audience of his post.

I am not sure if NTs automatically pick up on that they are not the intended audience of a wall post, but I have noticed with myself and others on the autism spectrum, that when a conversation sounds interesting, we involve ourselves in it.

You'll learn soon enough that there are tons of people like that on the Internet, and in a while you'll just be thinking to your self, "another troll" and move on from it.

After being around the web for nearly 10 years now, that's pretty much what it's come down to for me. Troll makes a comment, think "haters gonna hate" and move on. If the person doesn't know you personally then I wouldn't take it personally either. As I said, you're always gonna run into people like this. Fortunately they're easier to turn off then they would if you had actually ran into the guy somewhere.

I'm the OP of this thread. I came to the conclusion that I misinterpreted the whole thing a long, long time ago.