Disliking telephone conversations

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The few phone conversations I have, I dislike. I much prefer IM or real-life conversations.

I'd much rather talk to people on the Internet, than over the Phone. It's easier for me to read, than it is for me to listen.

When I was little I would absolutely refuse to talk on the phone, but although I still don't like it I can manage it OK now.

I absolutely HATE the phone! I never answer my home phone and my cell is only for my kids to call.

I never get phone calls right - always talk at the same time someone else is talking, have those weird pauses of silence. With my kids I tell them something or they tell me and when I'm done I just say "Okay I'm hanging up now" and they either say Okay bye or they say they have one more thing to tell me. I can be honest with them so I enjoy their calls. Other people on the phone is just torture.

I have a deal with my husband to do all the phone calls when they need to be made, whenever possible.

As far as noise at night - man I hate any kind of noise. My brain just latches onto anything and I lay wide awake listening - anything outside, anyone walking around inside the house, a clock ticking, anything.

I bought a White Noise machine but it operated on a loop and I would lay there for hours listening to the loop - click - loop - click. No one else could hear it. I couldn't hear anything else.

Finally found a GREAT white noise CD. It is totally random - no pattern at all. It plays all night and blocks out most all noises.

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I hate answering the phone... there might be a person on the other end!

the house phone, i will never answer.... never have, and never will!! !! !

only need that phone service for internet!


my cell is better...

(by the way, the way this text thing, the line that shows you wher you are, it drives me crazy because it does not blink when i stop typing!! !!)

I actually perfer phone conversations that real life, with some....

I was fortunate enough to have a very close friend who later became my girlfriend(ex now) about 3 years ago, she helped me a lot on the phone.....

I used to be awfull at it.... I would try to talk, to say something about something.... and i would not be able to get it out right, i could not ever find the words... it would be scrambled so so bad.... I could not just respond to a question, i would ramble trying to answer, but affraid of silence so did not want to take time to think enough so i could answer in short....
she was so kind in puting up with this and helping me by stoping me after a while, anytime i would start to do this, she would stop me, tell me to think about it, i think she would even put the phone down at times so i didnt think that i was making an awkward silence, and then i would prceed.... this took about a year for me to get good at.... a year at probably nearly 2 hours a day, almost every day..... i liked talking with her, but it was so hard... at the time i had never heard of AS... i could litteraly spend an hour trying to get myself to call her.... i hated calling her.... it got better because we set up a time....and every day at a certain time we would talk... this way it was planed.... about a year and a half of this helpd me so much....


now however, i have a good friend who i talk to ocassionaly.... she knows about my AS, and understands i may not get things somtimes.... at times, i just have to say to her "give me a minute" which she understands as im not going to say anything for a few seconds, even like actualy minutes....she will just sit there, or do whatever she is doing.... like driving... she will not say anything to me, untill i say something back.... this helps take a lot of pressure off....

however as for calling her, ha ha ha..... that is so hard!! !! ! I usualy try to plan it out that i can call her when i know she is in class or rehersal (college, or Orchestra).... that way i can leave a message, which i know always come out so scrambled, but at least i can think for a few minutes before hand what i am going to say..... then i know that most of the time she will call me back at night....

maybe a reason i like the phone is that their are no destractions (well most of the time), and i feel it puts me on a better playing field, becasue i cant understand body language, but they cant see it to understand it... so good!

if i get a call from some number i dont know, i wont answer it though, and i do not like talking to people if i am not close to them..... ok so it is only her who i like talking to.... she is the only one who actualy knows about my AS, other than my family, a few others i have told, but not told them what it is..... i dont want to either.

Most of the time, I dislike telephone conversations. However, if I talk to someone I am really close to, and I have something interesting to talk about, it all seems to work out just fine.

I usually don't know what or when to answer when talking on the phone. People who know me very well though, are used to the fact that I tend to interrupt them.

I hate phones too, but If I had a choice of what phone to use, it would be the land-line phone. I HATE cell phones!! !! The biggest reason is because most cell phones have terrible audio quality, and they are always breaking up and staticy. For someone who has a hard time interpreting conversation in the first place, it makes it all the more challenging when every third syllable is lost to silence or static. The other reason why I hate cell phones is because if I am in an activity where I am not around a phone, well, that means that I really don't have the time or attention to divert to a phone conversation in the first place, so I really don't want the #^(*&@%! !! ! ringing and interrupting me! One advantage of a cell-phone however is that you can just push the button, and disconnect, and the other person won't get mad, because you can just blame it on network issues (If you have Sprint, this is all to common anyways, and in fact expected!)

One the most annoying things that happens when I answer the phone? The person on the other end asks "Are you busy?" Well, I WAS busy till I stopped to answer the @#&^#@*&^@! !! ! phone!! ! I wish people would show some discresion and and think about what the other person is doing when they call! I keep a pretty tight routine in my day, and if anyone knows me, they should have no problem figuring out when the best time to call is! We, as humans go out of our way to be polite by doing things like taking hats of in buildings, that really don't make a difference in people's lives, but then we totally lack common sence when we use the phone!

Oddly enough I used to have a severe aversion to talking to anyone my own age on the phone. Back when I was nine years old my teacher asked me to call a certain classmate who had been away sick that day. I didn't put up any fuss with the teacher, but when it came time to call, I literally was kicking and screaming and my mom had to force it to happen. That was a defining Aspie moment for me. The only people I would talk to on the phone was family.

I am certainly not severe like that these days, but I still have some difficulty with bringing myself to call someone.

Phone calls are horrible for me... just terrible! Though real life conversations are difficult, too. The only place I can manage to have a decent convesation is online-- message board, email, IM.

I don't like telephone conversations very much, but they make me less nervous than face to face conversations. I don't have to worry about eye contact, body language, facial expression etc. on the phone.

I HATE HATE HATE the telephone. It's a slave-device; it's just there to control you. The only person I control with the phone is the pizza guy.

I especially hate that anyone can call you up pretty much at any time, and it isn't rude, but it's supposedly rude to hang up anytime you want to. I do so anyway.

IMing isn't much better, although at least I'm already there at the computer when I get messaged.

I hate talking over the phone. I mean actually getting up to get the phone is kind of feels like I'm getting harrassed just to get the phone.