Are friendships temporary?

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All my friendships have been temporary, sadly.
I've always been a person that just has one friend, and just that one person. I don't tie myself to more people. I don't know why, thats just how I am. I've tried numerous times where after a few years, that friend just stops talking to me from one day to the other. Mostly in school and such. Its always been tough for me, losing your only friend in a time where you really need one, is just horrible.
One of them did tell me they did not want to be friends with me after I told them about my disorders. That reaction alone made me stop telling it to people and simply hide it for quite a few years.
Today I don't have any close friends irl, but I have several people I keep contact with through the internet, and sometimes we meet up after a while.

Most of the friends I've known over the years have come and gone.

There are a few people I still see, like good childhood and high school budddies. But that's it really.

People drift apart and make new friends. It happens to everyone.

It's sad, but it seems to be how it is...generally. I have 2 good friends, but having known them for less than two years, I don't know how long our friendships will last before they inevitably fizzle away as we drift apart. This might seem trite, but you have to enjoy your current friendships as much as you can! If you're concerned about drifting apart, make sure you spend time with them and have some laughs together while you're still close. Also, some friendships can be surprisingly enduring, especially if you have been through some downs together, as well as ups. Hardship is the test of a true friendship.

I see them as temporary. They come and go. Sometimes people are friends for life but that's rare.

i do find that my friendships have been transient, so far. when i was younger i had great difficulty dealing with this, but now i am better with it. these days, my friendships last 1 to 3 years.

i have sort of 'flipped' my perspective, based on something i heard as a teacher. i worked in an area of high teacher turnover as it was very remotely located (90% turnover in one year), and my students told me that they look forward to meeting their new teachers - it added some fun to their lives. they said the felt lucky to have had so many teachers in their community.

now i try to always be open to fresh friendships so that i can get to know a new unique person. my old friends will disappear or become acquaintances again, and i sometimes have a bit of a sad transition period between close friends, but i know i will never be lonely for long! who knows who my new good friends will be?