Brianruns10 wrote:
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Haha, reading this brought memories. This type of thing happened to me a number of times. Some things I do now:
* Smile and say "maybe later"
* Don't move - so when the person pulls my elbow, they fail
* Don't set up this kind of situation in the first place - maintain "borderline acceptable social behavior" by using alcohol for "frown control". We all look so serious because to us, this is an excruciating job, a role we play at these events. Alcohol helps to broach clique-y circles and participate in conversation, so you aren't open to these "elbow grabbing dance predators".
* BE THE CAMERAMAN. Bring a video camera and film people dancing. You will find that people will bug you far less in general.
dyingofpoetry wrote:
The "pulling in" actually works well for some people, provided that the shyness is due only to inhibition. However, in our case, it is due to an actual social deficit, so pulling us in is much like throwing a penguin off a high cliff. It won't fly just because it's a bird.
This is a very accurate way to describe what happens. People mistake shyness ("oh I can dance, I am just self-conscious about it") with an actual problem ("I can't dance, really CAN'T, because my brain breaks up all the moves into patterns and renders me incapable of spontaneous movement").
Bethie wrote:
If someone grabbed my arm forcefully, I'd slap the sh** out of them.
Who the hell does that, anyway?
This photo is from years ago when someone grabbed me like the OP, and I was thinking how socially acceptable it would be for me to put them in a joint lock.