Rejecting people as friends.

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I'm 61, and only found out about AS 5 years ago. Finally understanding myself, I thought I could explain my feelings to others. I found that I'm unusual enough that nobody can imagine me. One big reason is that they seldom think logically, I had twenty people at my going away party, and not one of them knew why I was leaving. I've cut off the remaining contact with everyone I tried to get close to. I even gave up on the only girlfriend I'd ever considered marrying - and I'd always been the one dumped before.
I'm lucky to have a counselor who finds me interesting, and one new friend who shares some interests and general philosophy. We have a good time and some laughs on a weekly visit, but that's about it except for 'net acquaintances.
A common pattern has been for me to give people the benefit of the doubt and/or help them through a crisis, but then I suddenly decide that I'm not getting any enjoyment out of the relationship, and drop it with barely a second thought. This may be hard on people, but they were only seeing their own projections, not the real me.

if I look forward to spending time with them, I keep them. if I don't look forward to spending time with them, I try to limit my engagements with them. it's that simple. I try to be nice to everyone, but I only seek out the people I genuinely enjoy. that being said, I do try to cultivate a variety of new and old friends because I have a harder time keeping friends than most people.

I also get really weirded out by certain types of people, but that's okay, not everybody is everybody else's type.

I have rejected friends that are into drama and mind-games and things escalated...I simple could not take being picked on or manipulated. As well, (and I do this quite a lot) I reject guys who give the initial impression that they want to be just friends...only to find out that they want to get into my pants.

Before I totally cut off contact with my former friends and "support group" I heard that they were often wondering "what happened" to me, but they obviously were not reading all the explanations I had agonized over to explain things.

I don't have a great tolerance of most people, especially those who are predictable and like so many others out there. So I suppose I do reject people as friends.

I'm well known in town, but people seem to find me a little intimidating. I'm one of these people who can be very blunt, I seem to have a stern appearance and my voice is also very stern. I'm greeted by lots of people...I return greetings... and that's more than enough for me.

I don't feel the need to be accepted by the majority. I guess that comes with age.

I go to work to carry out my duties, not to make friends, so there's no need to try and be anything other than professional and competent there.

I have my three best mates and, together, we're a motley crew. One of them is actually my 26 year old niece. I wouldn't cope with any more than them. My family comes first, especially my kids, and I just enjoy being by myself too much.

My mates and I aren't always tolerant of each other, but at least we can be blunt with one another without over sensitivities.

One of these mates works where I do, in another department, our friendship came before our work place, and at work she's just another colleague to me. We've been friends since we were in our teens...we're in our 40's now.

We look out for each other's children and put up with each other's husbands...

I rejected some in school because I perceived them as lower in social status, and thus, I would avoid being seen with "losers".

It is one of the many regrettable decisions I made over the years.

I rejected everything and everyone, I changed of country, left my friends and family.

I had an extraordinary life that most people could only dream of. In short, I slowly and painfully overcame my weaknesses and was with fantastic and very different people who accepted me and liked me for who I was. I was happy, but at the same time something was very wrong all my rationale drove me into something I would call inefficiency, incompleteness, absence. I was lost.

I left, complete reboot. And just waited inside my minimalistic life for the questions and answers to show...

I reject people who are genuinely bad in a way that is intolerable.

Which with me pretty much boils down to prejudice, mostly of the ethnic or religious form.

I reject people who discriminate and bully/gossip negatively about other people who have disabilities or mental/medical conditions that they didn't choose.

I think having AS is actually good in a sense coz most of us are perceived as "weird" by others and it makes us an easy target for bullying, treated like crap and condescension by some as*hole NTs. We get priority treatment by these as*holes, and so we can quickly identify who NOT to be friends with!

I have rejected a few people who they think i should be there friends

Two recents include

One drunkered who reckons he knows everything and being a utter idiot.
And a guy who doesn't stand non socailiseing people

Sure i am nervous about socialiseing cause i don't do it well and i find difficult from time to time - but if you where to be at least sensible i would get on with you.

I reject just about everybody. It's always just a matter of time till they'll invade my space.