Which parent do you like more?

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I'm not close to either of my parents and I feel like neither one of them really knows me that well or understands me, but I like my mother more and get along with her better. The relationship with my father has been stormy, but I get along well with my mother, although our relationship is rather distant.

I would say my mum as she cared for me where as my dad hasn't played a big part of my life and doesn't have a clue about my Asperger's Syndrome.

My mum. My dad was abusive twoards me and would throw me into walls and threaten to punch my teeth out. I grew up afraid of him. Phycologsts say I was never close to him becuase his job kept him away but it was because I was afraid of him. My mom may be a curbie, but she was more understanding of my issues. In my dad's eyes I was nothing more than a spoiled brat.

I've let go of all grudges and I love both of my parents just the same, now. I cant wait until I see them tomorrow.

I love my dad but personally, I feel safer and more able to confide in my mom. Dad seems to be more intimidating and, I don't know, scary when trying to speak emotionally. It has always been that way. I think it is because he wants to play little jokes or tickle meand I never took that well.

My mom even tho Im more similar to my dad and I got my aspergers from him. My dad is stiff and very schedule oriented and rather OCD about the smallest things. I feel like me and my dad take our traits in completely opposite directions thats why its hard to relate to him even tho theoretically it shouldnt be. My dads super conservative and sticks to the rule book solidly with everything; whether its how a device something works or whether its morality. He thinks hes normal and doesnt want to stray away from normality, he holds onto what is comfortable. Meanwhile I embrace my quirks and weirdness more, its apart of me I'm not gonna pretend I'm normal. I don't like conservatism because conservative people are less acceptant of whats different and that's me. I find my dad annoying at times and he probably thinks Im disrespectful to a degree. My mom is a bit more open yet shes still conservative.

I like my step-dad better than both of my biological parents.

But out of my biological parents, I'd have to choose my mom.
I've always been a Mama's Girl.


My mom has attitude problems and my dad acts like a little kid, doesn't care about responsibilites, and treats me more like a toy that he sets aside in favor of other toys.

I love both of my parents, but I like my mom more. My dad's very emotional but he isn't very tolerant of other people's feelings, and he couldn't raise me and my brother very much because of his job.

I know my mom loves me and my brother, but she came from a family of social-climbers and tried/tries to raise us to be as successful as we can be (I've escaped to college this year, my brother still lives with her ).

Mom, she gets me and she was the first to suggest that I might be an aspie. I still remember my dad demanding that I socialize more and dismissing my failure to do so as mere shyness that I could just overcome. I still like the guy but his "just do it" approach to socialization just doesn't work for me.

My dad because he tunes things out instead of getting upset. He also kinda wants to spend time with me when my mom isn't around because he's dependent & doesn't seem to like being by himself.

My mom does a lot more for me than my dad & she seems to care about me more in lots of ways but she gets frustrated with me a lot more especially when she's upset about something else

My mother.

I never really grew up knowing my mother, in fact Ive only had very Limited contact with her, but she has some kind of Mental/Social issues that she cant or her pride wont let her resolve. Pretty much all of my contact with her was b4 age 3 and after age 21, and most of that has been by Telephone. Im also 99% sure she really really likes smoking the Crack, but its obvious self-medication for some other junk, because she has a TON of energy, even MORE personality, and yet shes Homeless in her 50s...

My father Is, well , another matter altogether. When I was growing up, no one knew what AS was, well not enough ppl anyway. I did all the things in School that (I assume) we all do, got put in Special Ed, Then in Magnet classes, then back in Special ed again... Got in Fights, Hit a teacher or two for threatening/touching me physically, always Corrected them when they were wrong, Talked to "authority figures" like they were my equals (or inferiors if i felt they were EXTRA dumb not just your avg NTs) Etc. My father decided that this was all about me "refusing to behave" and by the time I was 9 I was in a "Group Home", and by the time I was 11 I was deemed "Unmanageable" by them. So i bounced about from Placement to Placemen, but the nature of my behaviour always seemed to Baffle the NTs. They could never Reconcile in their minds that what threats and Bribes and "Privelages" and "Restrictions" would work on the rest of the kids I found petty and pointless. Yes, Id rather be right and in bed an hour earlier than lie to you to make you feel better and have to sit there looking at your smug face. Yes, Im going to tell you "No" when you're wrong regardless of weather you're going to mark my little sheet with a "3" or a "0", and regardless of if you let me go outside for the next three months or not. and regardless of if you let me go outside for the next three months or not. Even if i knew that this was eventually going to Escalate into you calling 7 or 8 other 250+lb guys to take me to (and grind me INTO a little) the ground and then eventually strap me to bed and Inject me with Thorazine, then guess what, Im going to tell you I STILL dont care OR agree with you, and Stoneface you all the while. My dad wrote me off a long time ago. Im definately not the kid he wanted. Hes successful, Rich, influential, charming ... just couldnt be bothered with a kid who wasnt everything he was.