A person that goes to a public place alone is creepy

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If they truly think that, then it doesn't bother me at all. Chances are they are not the type of people I want to associate with anyways. Yes I am weird, now leave me alone.

I don't see the dilemma here. Take a book, go where you want and enjoy being alone- just dpn't stare at people. As long as you have a book or newspaper people won't see anything 'creepy' about a person sitting alone (unless they are looking at everyone.)

I often go to the coffee shop by myself but never realized that I go there subconsciously because I know no one will freak at a male being alone in a public place... when its a coffee shop.

However, I do know that you can get into trouble with the police for this. I was driving home one night listening to the radio when a song I love came on. I pulled over so I could enjoy it more without the distractions of driving. Before the song was over, an officer was grilling me and chasing me off. Totally ruined the experience. Just another incident where people were looking at me like I was a criminal.

Stupid humans

I usually go to places by myself - coffee shops, cinemas, theatre, gigs etc. and no one really cares, least of all me

Sometimes I go see a movie by myself or to a local music gig which I've done before at the Bristol 02. I don't do it because I necessarily enjoy being on my own, it's due to the fact that my friends' hobbies differ from mine, so I go by myself. If I go with friends it's a bonus.

I'm heading to a venue in London this Wednesday. Should be good. Laibach ftw.

I get annoyed when my mom doesnt want me to go to the park or another place, because I could " get grabbed" or "look like I'm up to no good." The rest of the world should get used to the fact that if someone likes to hang out somewhere solo, mqaybe they have an ASD and it's more comfortable for them.

It's generally the way it is where I live, the last time I sat alone in the park I got a large rock thrown in my direction . I prefer my own company for the majority of people simply aren't worth my time, but I won'y deny that it's a lonely feeling. I don't understand why 'NT's' have a problem with people being alone, I have had that problem in school, I have that problem at college and most other walks of life.

I enjoy being by myself, I even spent my 18th birthday alone so nobody else could ruin it for me. That's one of my biggest problems with group situations. If I'm by myself I can do what I want to do and enjoy it. Whereas in a group you all have to come to a mutual conclusion as to what you want to do, so the winner is pretty clear for me.

Despite a strong sense of social justice and social well being I really value my solitude.

It can look creepy depending on the nature of you being in a certian place. If you're alone at the theatre to see a movie, the restaurant to eat, or the store to shop, that looks normal because your purpose in clear. You do what you came to do, get done, then leave.

It edges toward creepiness for someone to just "hang out" alone. For example, if I were at a bar for a couple hours alone drinking beer. Everyone knows I could be doing that at home for half the price with no real change to my current state. So, why does this guy choose to drink here when he shows no purpose for why most people to go to the bar (to socialize)?

He must be lonely, or weird, and creepy.

Sorry to hear this. The cop's reaction sounds so messed up and I can't understand it. As if people don't normally do that, drive or even pull over to the side of the road alone. It sounds normal enough.

Once I get off the computer, I'm going to go creepily alone to a public place. Two, actually- the supermarket and the bakery.

Yeah, I don't agree with the officer to this day. I understand that I was a male, alone, in a vehicle, in the dark, in a residential area. Who knows, I could have been casing someone's home or getting ready to commit some crime right then and there. But after the grilling, it should have been obvious that I was not a problem whatsoever. And if a crime would have been reported in that area at about that time, sure, I could be the first suspect on the list, especially after the officer logged my drivers license, but no, it should have been obvious to her.

It felt like I was under martial law: "What are you doing here? Can't you listen to the song at home? (duh! no! it'll be over before I get there! What's wrong with right here right now? It on the radio.) Is there any reason you can't go home? (No) Is there someone at home you're staying away from? (No!) Then why'd you stop?"

"Because like I told you earlier, a song I really like came on the radio and so I pulled over to enjoy it more!"

"Well you can't stay here."

"Why not?!"

"You just can't. You need to leave now."

I'm on a public street parked next to a public sidewalk. There are no parking lots, parks or businesses within a mile and I can't control when a song comes on the radio anyway! The song came on, I wanted to enjoy it more so I pulled over to listen to it. What's illegal about that?" (it was solid residential and why should it matter anyway.)

"Nothing, but you need to go home, sir."

I didn't feel like going to jail so I left. I could have gone home that much happier, but instead, went home that much angrier.

Maybe I should have defied her so I could sue for false arrest. But being an Aspergian, I'm sure I would have lost that too.

That sounds more than frustrating It's good that you were able to drive off without totally losing it with her though.

Yeah. I worked in IT for 18 years so I had a lot of real-world anger management training purely by means of survival. If I wanted a job, I couldn't get mad.

A person that goes to a public place alone is creepy especially when its Pandora_Box.

I talk to myself also objects and when I'm extremely uncomfortable and don't know what to do I start pacing back and forth.

Example one time I was at the movies by myself. I don't know why, but I have never been to the theater by myself. I have no problem with going to the ticket booth clerk with my friends and asking for the tickets with my friends around.

Anyway, I knew what I had to do. I needed to go to the booth clerk and ask for one ticket to the movie. I kept walking forward to the actually booth area and then I'd walk back to the sidewalk. Then back to the booth. Then back to the sidewalk.

The woman and the guy were both watching me. I could feel it. When I went up the fifth time, they asked me if I needed help. and then asked if I was waiting for someone.

I replied, I was going to see a movie by myself.

And they asked me what movie and they were trying to get me to buy a ticket.

Instead I said, "No that's fine I'm going home,"

Mhm.

I'm sure they thought I was some kind of creeper.

I really don't think that's the case. Unless you're a man who goes to a children's play area in a park and sits on a bench and watches the children. That might freak some mothers out, but other mothers might assume he was a father. But other than that, I don't think what you say is true at all.

Yes, it's always useful to have a newspaper, magazine or book if you're going to a cafe or bar or restaurant.

But it can also be a matter of 'there's a time and a place'. I mean, if you go to a busy city centre bar on a Friday or Saturday night and sit by yourself, at first people might assume that you're waiting for a partner or some friends, and then after a while if no one turns up, when you're surrounded by couples and groups of friends, you might start to feel a bit self-conscious and a billy-no-mates. But if you were to go to that same bar on a Tuesday or Wednesday night, when it was less busy, you might not stick out like a sore thumb. There might be a couple of other 'loners' in there, people visiting the city on business, people who've finished work and who are getting a pint and a bite to eat before meeting friends at the theatre or cinema, people who've finished work late and just missed a train home and the next one isn't due for another hour so they're getting a cheeky pint instead of waiting on a cold railway station platform.

Next time, just buy the ticket and go to see the movie!

Honestly, it's no big deal. I go to the cinema by myself a lot. I got into the habit a few years ago for a few reasons:

1) I got fed up of saying to a friend, Hey, d'you fancy going to see Film X at the weekend? And they'd say yes, then they'd mention it to a couple of other friends, and then when you get to the cinema, someone inevitably turns round and says: So, what are we going to see, I fancy watching Film Y, is everyone else up for that? And you end up watching Film Y, and thinking But it was *my* idea to come to the cinema tonight, and I wanted to watch Film X, and I invited a friend, and now there's loads of us and we're watching something completely different.

So I figured that if there's a film I really want to see, then instead of making loose arrangements with a friend to go and see it, only for those plans to be changed at the last minute, then I should just go myself.

2) I've worked in some jobs that involved working shifts, so sometimes I've been working in the evenings or at weekends when other friends usually go to the cinema, and I've been free in the afternoons, or maybe I've gone to watch a really late show after I finished an evening shift, when I know friends would be in bed already as they have work early the next morning and I'm on late shifts. Or I got into a habit of going to shopping mall in the afternoon that had a multiplex, and before I bought my groceries, I'd potter upstairs to see if there were any interesting films starting, and sometimes I'd watch a film, and then go grocery shopping, kill two birds with one stone kind of thing.

3) After going to the cinema in the afternoons when I was working shifts, I realised how noisy and irritating other people were when I went to the cinema at the weekends and on busy evenings, so I realised instead of going at the weekend with friends when films are newly released, I prefer to wait and see them midweek. It irritates me when other people are messing around on their mobile phones or talking, or if teenagers are running around acting up.

So, all in all, I don't mind going to the cinema by myself, in fact I quite like it. As Sartre said, Hell is other people.