Would this annoy you?

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Yes. That is annoying.

I also cannot stand when someone tells me to do what I'm already doing, especially if it's a blatantly obvious thing.

Yes, it can be very distressing for us. Me and my wife talk a lot about that, and she helped me to understand a great deal about these things, trying to understand NT people has also helped me to understand myself. Because nowadays I can understand why somethings that seems to be so pointless for NTs while they are so bugging to my nerves.

NTs can't get too focused on one single thing, they are able to think of and perform many things at the same time. So, in the same sense, they do not get to think too much about one single thing, then as their pondering about things are so shallow, they won't see why we get annoyed.

Today I have a very difficult time dealing with my father and siblings, we almost don't talk anymore. When I get to visit them - which I hate doing, but my wife insists on it - we always end up having a fight, because they never get what I'm saying and we fight. My family doesn't know about my aspergers syndrome. I was diagnosed after I got married, my wife was the one who helped me with that. So, I can't bring them down to understand my issues, and I won't even bother trying anymore.

LOL! (Literally, I laughed out loud)

I don't know if I am violent or not, but that was just a hilarious answer. (probably because the voice I imagined it in.... )

Oh my goodness, how those types of things annoy me. Last spring semester, I don't think I could have made it any clearer to my 'friend' that 90% of my time was going to be spent doing work for my senior art exhibition. And yet, day after day, she would text me, "So, what are you up to?" or at my congregation after a meeting, she would ask me, "So, what are you going to be doing today?" The answer was always, "Work on my art show!" and I couldn't understand why she would ask me the questions all of the time. Or she would ask me, "You're at school again?" It came to the point where I stopped answering her texts for a while out of frustration.

When I told my parents that I would be spending a lot of time at school to work on my art show that semester, it couldn't have been more obvious why I was going to school, but why, oh why would they ask me, "Why are you going to school?" I wanted to slap some sense into them!

My mother does the same thing all the time: If I'm clearly dressed to go out and I'm about to leave the house, it's, "Where are you going?" Out.
If the phone rings and I answer it [which is most of the time!], "Who was that?" Well maybe if you cared enough about who is calling, you should answer the phone yourself instead of sitting next to it and letting me walk from the next room to answer it! So I say, "No one."
"Are you stressed?" YES! The worst is when someone calls MY phone and she asks me who was on the phone. That negates the point of having my own phone if you always want to know who's calling me!

Ugh, my goodness, please don't get me started, I'll only get incredibly frustrated! [/i]

All I can say is time to get a new roommate

I blatantly say to them, 'Your question annoys me. How many more times are you going to ask?'. Although I have to admit, I probably sound like an @$$, I'm too blunt.

I suggest you tell your roommate jokingly with humor and a grin, 'Wanna take a wild guess? The bathroom, as usual, wanna join me?'

Of course, try not to take it too far. I'm horrible with these situation so I'm sorry if I cannot help much.

Yes. I get asked by my parents "How are you?" every day. I know they mean well, but it's not like anything extraordinary recently happened in my life. I always say "fine" to push the question away.

My suggestion to the OP is to start asking him really annoying questions and he might get the idea. This seems to be how my parents have always talked to me. They want to know the dumbest things and ask really obvious questions. I usually answer with sarcasm or whatever will result in the fewest follow up questions.

I really hate small talk that involves a question.
Hey, what's up?
How are you doing?
How's your day?
etc. etc.

There are no correct answers to these.
Small talk is by definition pointless.

That is definitely a good way to handle this. It really depends if there is going to be a (real) conversation directly afterwords.

A more annoying question:
"What are you going to do in the bathroom?"

I agree!! !!

This is me totally! ...How are you? doesn't bother me, it's polite and a way to greet someone, but "where are you going?" when they know full well where I'm going would totally bring out my sarcasm.