How do you cope at parties?

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I think the main issue is lots of people. Even if I know them, they talk to others or each other. This reminds me of school, at break times I used to sit with three other friends and we got along fine, now there are ten others and I am left out (even number of other people is probably related). But when strolling with one or two of them it is fine.

Thanks for the advice, by the way.

Hanging around smokers is probably not good for my health, and I do not want to start smoking either.

Going to the toilet helps, sometimes I bring a book and ask Dad for the car keys, then go sit in the car and read.

Maybe I should try eating more slowly. The main problem is that after eating something, I think 'I want more, there is nothing else to do' and go get another. Also food runs out quickly.

I do have an mp3 player, I suppose I could listen to it in the car since it is so loud otherwise turning it up would damage my ears.

Talking to other 'non NT' people sounds like a great idea, unfortunately there never are any.

Alcohol is risky, only 1/4 of a glass of wine or a glass of beer will make me feel great (last time I did that was ages ago though) but a glass of champagne gave me a huge headache from that moment till the end of the next day. Maybe I should try it more.

Sitting aside is boring and I feel like other people might think of me oddly. It also makes me listen more to the hubbub and the music.

Mum and Dad's reasons for making me go is that I was invited and it is polite to go. The store set aside by neurotypicals for politeness is just plain insane.

Very rarely I enjoy parties, this is usually because there is some activity, like a waterslide or pool, or there is good music I can listen to, like jazz.

I am very bad at turning conversations in a direction of something other than gossip. A good philosophical debate with someone who is serious would be great, but only one or two of my friends are really capable of that.

I think maybe I should make it clearer to my parents how much I hate parties, Mum says I am 'more neurotypical than aspie' but I do not think I have told her about all my issues - I only recently disclosed my disgust of receipts, and that is just the tip of the icebergs.

I end up frowning or glaring because I inevitably start thinking negative thoughts about other people and how they are enjoying themselves and I am not.

Sorry for such a long post, thanks again for replies.

i actually love parties! sure i do need to escape at some points in time but i still love them! i guess its cuz my friends play good music at their parties and my friends are fun to hang out with. i like school dances too even tho i've never gotten a date to one yet. o well theres always the valentines dance this year. i must find a way to let my girlfriend come without her parents wondering things (she goes to another school and her parents dont kno shes bi) i cant dance at all but i like music and flashy lights so yep....i wanna go to raves so badddd!! !! !