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02 Jul 2006, 5:53 pm

I would avoid relationships in school, it's like being famous and all that attention on you and gossip, horrible.

Try and find someone outside school, thats much much better, though obviously will be hard unless you join some sort of club or interest group. Otherwise aim for someone of equal 'status' as yourself, preferably one of the shy girls noone really notices or pays attention to much.



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02 Jul 2006, 10:39 pm

Alternative, are you still even watching this topic anymore?



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03 Jul 2006, 11:33 am

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Alternative, are you still even watching this topic anymore?


Yeh. I'm busy with school and homework thats all.



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03 Jul 2006, 11:35 am

mysteriouslyabsent wrote:
I would avoid relationships in school, it's like being famous and all that attention on you and gossip, horrible.

Try and find someone outside school, thats much much better, though obviously will be hard unless you join some sort of club or interest group. Otherwise aim for someone of equal 'status' as yourself, preferably one of the shy girls noone really notices or pays attention to much.


I know. I like her you see and the amount of people that come up to me and ask "do you fancy her john?" "do you really?" is getting on my nerves. I've liked her for so long now I've got used to all the people asking me and all. I dont get embarassed, I just close my eyes and laugh at all the silly suggestions I get. Like "What are you gonna do round her house" etc.



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03 Jul 2006, 11:38 am

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Wow, I don't think my post made a lot of sense. I should have read the original message more closely.

Alternative, how close are you to this girl? How long have you been friends? I don't have alot of experience I am afraid but after my failed attempt to make things more formal with a girl in HS my close friendship with her sort of fell apart. I think I may have handled somewhat poorly (in a very shy standoff-ish manner) helped contribute to this. I never imagined this happening before I asking her on a date. It was very unnerving I didn't get over it for months.

You may be a better at intermingling however.


We are good mates, we've been friends for 2 years now. I have started "fancying" her for about 4 or 5 weeks now. Shes a bit shy of me though and doesn't really talk to me in school, I'd happily go up and talk to her, but shes a bit shy of me and I'd hate the fact that everyone will crowd around seeing me talking and most NTs will come out with a remark like "stop flirting with her" or "oooh have you got hold of her?" or "Have you pulled yet?" So we talk via MSN.



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03 Jul 2006, 11:41 am

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Yours is a challenging social situation by any standard, that can, nevertheless, perhaps be broken down into separate and reasonable problem statements even only as a point of departure:
1) How to deepen the relationship.
2) How to create unobtrusive opportunities for her to cross the mythic line.
3) How to present a better case than her other suitors.
A) What are her own romantic dissatisfactions, if any?
B) What turns her on?


I know her alot by the way, but it would be nice for me if I could actually go out with her. Shes a nice girl.



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03 Jul 2006, 2:45 pm

Alternative, you do not adress my questions.



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03 Jul 2006, 2:49 pm

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mysteriouslyabsent wrote:
I would avoid relationships in school, it's like being famous and all that attention on you and gossip, horrible.

Try and find someone outside school, thats much much better, though obviously will be hard unless you join some sort of club or interest group. Otherwise aim for someone of equal 'status' as yourself, preferably one of the shy girls noone really notices or pays attention to much.


I know. I like her you see and the amount of people that come up to me and ask "do you fancy her john?" "do you really?" is getting on my nerves. I've liked her for so long now I've got used to all the people asking me and all. I dont get embarassed, I just close my eyes and laugh at all the silly suggestions I get. Like "What are you gonna do round her house" etc.


It is crucial for you, Alternative, to discover whether they wish to play cupid and help you, or are only trying to make a fool of you and embarrass her into further retreat from you.



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03 Jul 2006, 5:13 pm

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We are good mates, we've been friends for 2 years now. I have started "fancying" her for about 4 or 5 weeks now. Shes a bit shy of me though and doesn't really talk to me in school, I'd happily go up and talk to her, but shes a bit shy of me and I'd hate the fact that everyone will crowd around seeing me talking and most NTs will come out with a remark like "stop flirting with her" or "oooh have you got hold of her?" or "Have you pulled yet?" So we talk via MSN.


OK. Good. You seem to have a far better idea if how to ago this then I do/did.



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03 Jul 2006, 5:26 pm

Are my numbered questions howsoever deemed hopelessly naive and awkward beyond open consideration?



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03 Jul 2006, 5:28 pm

I'm 31 and I've never had a Boyfriend. There's a guy at my Clubhouse that I like. He's 30 and we both went to Pre-School, together. I'll be hanging out with him, on the days that he comes to the Clubhouse and get to know him, better. I can imagine that the two of us, put together could make an interesting person. I'm Ga-Ga over Routemasters and their Cousins, and the guy that I'm interested in is into the Buses, and the Bus System of British Columbia's Lower Mainland. It's taken me this long to wake up and realize that the thing that I want, is right in front of me.



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03 Jul 2006, 5:31 pm

Have you so much as an ounce of sex appeal? Do you anticipate any difficulty seducing him?



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03 Jul 2006, 11:23 pm

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Have you so much as an ounce of sex appeal? Do you anticipate any difficulty seducing him?


I could wear a Skirt and a nice Top, maybe some light Make-up. I can tell him, "Let's take the Bus to White Rock, together and we can spend the Afternoon walking along the Beach!"

It's a hard one. I've never seduced a guy, before.



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03 Jul 2006, 11:31 pm

Oh honey, we're easy!



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04 Jul 2006, 10:28 am

AaronAgassi wrote:
Are my numbered questions howsoever deemed hopelessly naive and awkward beyond open consideration?


Well sorry. Why don't you PM me and I'll answer your questions from there. I'm busy with school in all. Sorry I havent had enough time to answer all these questions.



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04 Jul 2006, 12:20 pm

If your answers would be too private for this forum, then why not email me?