What areas of social skills do you wish you knew more about?

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it's several decades too late for me now, but it sure would be nice if i could just figure out people enough to know if they are wanting to get to know me better or not. i never had a clue. and i was never lucky enough even to have somebody else say to me, something along the lines of "ya know man, that so-and-so over there was interested in you."

I agree with everything that everyone posted. I never know how to start a conversation or keep a conversation going. Lately, I have been trying to watch other people and pretty much copy them. There are people that I know that I pretty much want to model myself after and pretty much pretend to think about how THEY would react as opposed as to how I would act...of course that gets exhausting after awhile and then I pretty much need to go in my little hole and recharge .

One thing that I would love to learn...how to join a 'clique' and have inside jokes. I just joined the Junior League (because I want to be like those women soo bad) and some of the girls in the provisional class hang out regularly and invite each other places, and as usual, not included, which makes me very sad, but of course, always happens .

I wish I was better at asking people to do things for me. I wish I was better at lying and persuading for the greater good. Also, telling the truth without the fear of confrontation or causing inconvenience

Socially, I would like to know how to keep conversations going, certainly. Also how to notice things about people and ask questions in such a way to get them to start talking about themselves. I would like to know when something that sounds perfectly fine in my head will sound odd to other people. I would also like to learn how to not stutter if I say something without rehearsing it in my mind first, but I don't think you can help me with that.

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I wish I knew how to make friends and how to get to know people better & get them to want to get to know me better. People generally don't seem interested in getting to know me and I don't know if I'm doing something wrong or if being different/autistic is what's driving them away me without giving me a chance.

In a place where I go to see an occupational therapist I am going to be going to a social skills group in three days- I am very nervous as I think they my get us to do conversations there in front of the group.I have not told anyone that I think that I have aspergers so I should have no reason in there eyes to be as bad with social skills.however after saying that the O.T. was the person who suggested I go to it so she must think I have some degree of difficulty.

Mostly how to take part in conversation w/o being an annoyance and when NOT to distance myself from others.

small talk, making and keeping friends. im pretty bad at both

i'm much better at small talk than at big talk.