Facebook Anxiety?

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Facebook - I use it from time to time - but it's wierd - because it's people - and people are just wierd aren't they?!

I have actually seen a recent discovery which found that sites like FB makes people sad. I have also found that out myself and I really don't think that it's us per say. I am quite sure that there are other NT's who feel isolated from their friends who got married.


Have you ever seen the friends episode where the character Rachel is working as a waitress and her friends from school happen to drop by? All of them seem to be married and sucessful careers and have young children. Meanwhile, she is a single associating with other single women who are average Joes living in a condo in NYC. So I don't think it has anything to do with us feeling left out. As much as a love Facebook, I am going to mention that it's a depressing website.

It kinda is, huh? It's so superficial and shallow. I have one, but I don't genuinely enjoy it because it feels judgmental. Every now and then, I get defriended, which sucks, so I don't look at my friend count anymore. Like somebody said, everyone has one, so it does have its uses, but it also sucks.

Magicbus, don't you see the obvious? You ARE being noticed, what is really happening is you're not being given credit for inspiring people (you post something, others notice and investigate, repackaging and reposting the same things to their 'wall' without giving you credit for bringing the item or subject to light).

I think you sell yourself short. If you were to keep doing what you are doing, I'd bet that others might start connecting the dots. Friends could start noticing that you are the source for the interesting stuff that others are posting and that may bring them around to acknowledging you more substantively.

Or, you could just use Facebook to bring you lots of cool information that might be of entertainment value if nothing else. Though this isn't 'social networking', it is using Facebook constructively, kind of as a 'fetch engine' (a place where information is brought to you by trusted sources as opposed to a 'search engine' which is obviously used to search the internet for information). That is how I use Facebook, having experienced all the disappointments listed here, I visit FB to view the 'latest and greatest' in a range of topical areas. The curious thing is that as I dug up more and more interesting stuff/pages, people started taking more notice of me because I was a source of fascinating information. When I 'like' pages or posts, others sometimes follow suit and it's allowed me to interact with those people in particular more comfortably. Of course, I stay away from political, religious or other subjects that might prove contentious, sticking to artistic, craft, design, architectural, music, etc. pages or posts.

BTW, I'd love to add some Wrong Planet members to my own Facebook friends, if anyone's interested just PM me.