Do we really need friends?

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nah

More hugs coming your way.

You can try to say that friends aren't important but the honest truth is EVERYONE NEEDS REAL FRIEND'S!! !
There is nothing more import than being with people who really care...

Humans can not be truly happy without least one true friend who really does care about them.

Not having any friends can make people not want to live... if only I could have a real friend... it is hard to find one.
So... you must realize this... FIND A TRUE FRIEND AND YOU WILL ALWAYS BE HAPPY...
if you don't you will just be miserable... if you refuse to try to make friend you will be even more sad...
I TRY TO BE NICE TO EVERY ONE!! !! you should too...

Im starting to agree with you there with the amount of trouble Im having with the friends Im having at the moment, going back to being a hermit in my unit looks like a good idea or a deserted Island far from socialization as possible would be great. Ive always been apart of a big group of people that consists of people that were abit different or just didnt fit into the groups they were in. I found keeping up with too many people is confusing and the amount of fights because of the lack of communication and misunderstandings were frequent. There was alot of backstabing and gossiping which I dont understand. I agree with having one or two genuine real close friends. But I am happy with being alone in my unit doing my own thing.

I know what your saying, when I spoke up in my class today before class started I felt a real awesome high when I did it, then immediately regretted when they started to follow my idea and want to push it on the teacher. In case you were wondering what the idea was, it was my teacher gives bonus questions on test but when he adds the points in he adds them as 1 percent per question when we thought he should really be adding them on to the points and a bunch of other things that are too complicated to think about. I think I would want a friend who I connect with and can trust.

Yay! So interacting with my Billy Idol cd cover pays off LOL! That's what I interact with 24/7 because I barely see friends. I mean i'm happy with it, and I interact on this website too. I'm being open and honest on here because I know no one will judge me!

I enjoy having friends, but not ones that are gossippy and always judging you...they make you question whether they are worth the effort. One of my friends, who I have known for years, apparently called me some nasty things behind my back recently and I feel upset and betrayed.

I feel like I can't trust people either, as I thought she appreciated and respected my differences. Then, I think...how many other people have gossipped about me? It is times like that that makes me think that other people are a waste of time.

It's super rude when people pretend.

If you really are a big jerk, then act like one. I'd rather be near an honest jerk than a pretend friend.

Hmmm... well, lots of people need money, and they don't have it... so even if you do need friends-- which you probably do not-- you're tougher than you think!-- you can still live without them.

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I don't have one true friend the last "true friend" who I thought was a friend used me and took advantage of me. I don't want or need people like that in my life.

Yes I know most people need at least one true friend but they are simply hard to find and I have never had any desire to socialise and find true friends. I have tried and have been unsuccessful in making and keeping friends. I enjoy doing my own thing and being a loner.

We all have our own opinion on if we need friends or not but I have lived without them for most of my life so I believe you can survive with few or no friends.

However... what would you do in an emergancy or disaster... and had no friends (or family) to help you survive?

say for example... an earthquake or other natural disaster... or even a war taking place in or near your country or hometown.

in these events people need to work together to surivive... but if your not a freind... then your an enemy and nobody will save you.
this is the only logical conclusion... relationships such as freindship... and more importantly Love... are the key to survival.

Transformingcar Well I have been through 2 major earthquakes in the city I live in and I made an effort to get in touch with relatives and a neighbour who I talk to on occasion. I got through with acquaintances people I knew. I had no choice but I got through the earthquake. I'm lucky I'm still alive. There were a lot of people here in the city whose homes were damaged who had no family or friends to go to as there homes were damaged so they are homeless? Where are their friends in times of crisis? My flat was fine although had a lot of cracks.

I know I am not the first person without a friend and I won't be the last. I don't agree that if you're not a friend then you're an enemy. I have been nice to people, listened to their problems and given advice and still I have no friends and yet people shun and reject me for no reason and they won't tell me why that is why I am better off without friends.

Each to their own I say.

When my therapist asked and I did say that I had a couple online she acted like that was enough but it's not.

I feel like I need at least 1 friend (other than family) but I can't figure out how to get one. When I lived somewhere else a few years ago I was flung into a group of friends & after finding out some people disliked me I kind of made it my mission to singly befriend the 1s I liked. Then I had to move. I hear from these people online like once a month, at the most. I feel like it was somewhat a waste of time. I bet they've mostly forgotten that I exist.

I don't know how to get any in this town because I hate this town (well the whole state, but I don't drive, so it's not like that matters). Plus I hate the values here (mainly only on spawning a bunch of babies) so I have no idea who I would even relate to.

I met a girl when I worked somewhere for a short period of time. She is an online friend & I see her going out all of the time via her check ins or whatever. Sometimes I wish that she would invite me but why would she? Plus I certainly wouldn't invite myself.

I have a family member who is near my age who seems nice that I'd like to hang out with. I don't mention the not driving thing but I can tell that everyone knows. So when I would say something to her about it she would say "I'm available on such and such days. Just come see me" or something to that effect but I can't. I certainly couldn't have my father take me so that the family could make fun of me some more.

Before I knew I was an Aspie, I was kind of obsessed about having friends. Not that I had many, but I tried and felt bad that I didn't. Now that I know I'm Aspie, the friendship issue has changed drasticly for me. I have accepted that most free-form socializing causes excruciating anxiety after the fact. Even if I have an enjoyable time during the event. In fact, it is worse if I really enjoy myself because I then feel I have revealed too much, made a fool of myself, misinterperated cues all of which is likely true. Now I am declining social invitations and opportunities and it feels great!

I have one close, long time friend who I can talk to and we enjoy some common interests and some family contact and that is plenty for me as far as intimate friends go. I also am a vendor at a seasonal farmers market and this gives me a few months of community contact in a structured, very limited social environment. I think I need that or I'd feel too isolated in the community where I live. But giving up on the idea of having multiple friends and regular socializing is a big relief.

Yes, we do. Social belonging is a basic need of life. It's hard for us with Asperger's Syndrome to make friends, but when friendships happen, nothing beats them. Nothing is better than a loyal friend. Plus since it's so hard for us to make friends, we are in a great position to value friends more than the average person, so it's an extra reward for us.

Let's just say it's a little miserable not having friends atm. Back when I was better at hiding my weirdness I at least got to learn a thing or two or get out of my house and do something. These days it's as if there's no motivation or drive to do anything anymore. However I know people say they get along fine without anyone in their life. I think I'm one of those people who are semi-social or need some stimulation from people.