Don't have many friends, don't have social skills

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Well if you feel safe in your uncles hardware store you could use that as a base of operations. Try going into the pharmacy and buying something small like gum or something cheap they sell and trying saying hi and asking how busy they are or how the person serving you is doing then go back to your uncles store. Do a little at a time, then when you feel up to trying it again pay another visit to the pharmacy and do the same again but try to add something to the conversation, say the weather is good or bad or mention something that happened in the local news? You could build up a tolerance for social interaction by doing that little by little then before you know it you'll be having a full blown conversation and you can then expand your horizons from the pharmacy and use your new skills in other environments. It won't happen overnight but over time you'll notice your confidence bulding.

Good luck with your exploits, i'm going through a similar situation and i'm just trying to relay the advice my cognitive behavioural therapist gives to me.

I see a behavioral specialist, a family therapist, a psychiatrist, a neuropsychologist, they all tell me different things and it's all way too confusing for me to comprehend them all at once. My psychiatrist put me on medications to "supposedly help me get better", oye. But, anyway, when I do have the money, usually what I buy from the pharmacy is like make-up accessories, like eyeliner when I need more of it, but, these days, when I go to the pharmacy, I only say hi and talk to the woman pharmacist that knows me and my Dad really well, yesterday, I told her what happened and she was nice enough to let me sit and relax, plus she gave me a cup of hot chocolate with a small basket of cookies, I was very thankful, she's such a nice woman, I even talked to her about my medications and if they have different effects if I'm taking over the counter medications like Dayquil or Nyquil for a cold and she told me that they do mess up the effects of the Trazodone that I'm taking, like they'd make it harder for me to get a good night's sleep, now I know. So, like I said, I seem to do better with social when I'm either at the pharmacy or my Uncle's hardware store.

The pharmacist sounds awesome, it sounds like you're making friends without realising it. Maybe try baking some cookies or a cake and take it in to share with her if you make it a regular thing to go in and sit with her to keep her company

It sounds like the pharmacy is becoming part of your comfort zone and that's awesome as it's expanding and becoming less restricting for you. The pharmacist might be able to offer you some advice too since she's probably seen lots of people like us and if her advice tallies with what one of the so called specialists advise you could try it. If all the advice seems contradictory i'd just concentrate on one specialists advice then try to enact that. then if it doesn't work try what a different doctor tells you, but keep them all informed and tell each one what the others are advising, then they might come to a consensus?

I wish you all the luck in the world but i reckon by befriending the pharmacist you've already taken the first step.

yeah, I like her, she's really nice, she understands what I'm going through and she agrees with me on a lot of things, like, I told her how I got into a fight with my parents and my mentor and that I had to just leave the house because I couldn't stand it anymore and she agreed that I need to clear my head and that it was a good thing that I arrived at the pharmacy when I did, she allowed me to sit and relax and hang out there for a while, she understood that I was in pain and hurting and possibly freezing, hence the offer of hot chocolate and cookies to help.

I get along okay with my family when it comes to social as well, and I do talk to a lot of my friends, mostly online though, all my friends are scattered everywhere around the US so I only have the Internet and texting when it comes to contacting them.