SoulPower,
I'm glad I found this thread. I've started a thread elsewhere on the boards about learning how to banter. I appear to be immune to understanding how to do this, and so far nobody has explained how they think of comebacks or respond to playful teasing. My mind goes blank at anything even mildly playful. For example, a person I met with the same first name said to me "That's a great name!" and I was speechless. I literally do not think of appropriate responses until about 20-30 minutes after a social encounter has ended. Sometimes it takes me days, or other times, I never think of anything to say. NT people usually don't have problems with banter at all. I've also never flirted, and amazingly, despite that I am married to a beautiful NT woman.
The only things that I have found on the web that even start to talk about this is on PUA websites. I've learned that "role playing" is very much part of being a PUA. I don't think I'd have too much success with role-playing because all my attention is on the here and now, and not in the non-literal world of banter, flirting, etc.
I've noticed that a lot of the stuff posted on PUA websites is misogynistic in outlook. Even in women like being manipulated and laugh while doing it, I would not be able to bring myself to doing it. So, my question for you is, did any of the PUA stuff you've learned address the issue of banter/playful teasing? If so, how does one go about it? What ways have PUA techniques helped you in your interactions with other people, and finally (sorry for all the questions!), what specific sources of information did you find the most useful? Thanks!
26 Dec 2011, 2:54 am
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