Are men generally more friendlier than women?

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09 Feb 2012, 3:59 am

I don't think one or the other are friendlier, i just think that woman are more reserved around strangers.



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09 Feb 2012, 11:27 am

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I'd say overall you're like, right. It's more that women societally for a long time were expected to be quiet and reserved, so there's that. But I think it's more that women usually have much more issues with anxiety and whatnot compared to males, and it's more OK for them societally, as in, they're "allowed" to. Males on the other hand, are expected to be strong and outgoing, and usually those traits come with being outgoing enough to be friendly with random strangers on the street.

To add, too, men overall have much less to fear in public. The obvious example is rape, but not even rape itself is what I'm talking about, women just get victimized a bit easier. One example would be, just meeting a guy who wants to have a romantic relationship with you, and he like, beats you or something. Stuff like that. Obviously, we don't have it perfect and wonderful as guys, and we'll meet crazy women, I mean it's another can of worms entirely being a guy, but that's my point. Women too, even just for nonsexual crimes, like robbery, are weaker to defend themselves. A muscular guy with good posture and a "don't f**k with me" look on his face has a significantly less chance of getting robbed compared to a like 5'2 woman that weighs like 100 pounds. And going further with that, robbery is an extreme example, but even just in a store setting. Like buying a car. You get treated entirely different as a woman, and most dealers take advantage of the inherent (I don't mean to offend, but it's true, women are physically weaker than men, I mean there's obviously strong women, but I digress) weakness of women, and this'll happen across the board in business deals. So again, to put it shortly, women generally have to be more defensive ALL the time.


This is the general perception so it likely influences peoples behavior in the way you suggested, however men are actually more likely to be the victims of violent crime.

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Either way, it hasn't been my experience that men are friendlier. While men may be more likely to say "hi," I've found that, if I'm the one initiating some sort of contact, women are more likely to stop what they're doing and have a conversation.


In the country that I'm currently living in, men are the victims of roughly 80% of violent crimes, yet the 8 - 9% of violent attacks that are rape gets media attention, extra money for self defense classes for women and so on. I suppose it comes down to the fact that women are somewhat on a pedestal in that regard. It's interesting how such things are never taken into account in discussions on feminism to be honest.



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11 Feb 2012, 11:13 am

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I don't mean all, but mostly it seems this way. Yesterday I was walking with my mum and her brother, and each time we passed a man of any age, they said hello to my mum or her brother, even though they didn't know them. (Nobody says hello to me because I keep my head down and fail to make eye contact with strangers in the street). But every woman who passed didn't smile or say hello or anything, just glared at us or didn't look at all. My uncle said that more men say hello to him than don't, and more women don't say hello to him, and it's the same with my mum, so it's got nothing to do with what gender you are - it just seems that men are more likely to be friendly and say hello to you as they pass than women are. Again, it's not necessarily all the women or all the men, but mostly it seems to be. I'm not sure if it's like this in other countries, or if it's just a British male thing.

If it is true, it's weird because I thought women had more of a social trait in them than men do in general, but it turns out that men are more friendlier than women. Perhaps men are less quick at recognising body language with other people and so just see a person coming and think, ''oh I will say hello whoever he/she is'', whereas a woman will come along and think, ''not saying hello to them - I don't know them''.

Has anyone else experienced this?


I've noticed that too, I find it harder to talk to woman then to men when I do not know them as I can say Hello albeit awkwardly to a guy but for woman it's harder (at least my female workmates are welcoming to everyone as well).

Maybe it's that more woman don't like saying Hello to strangers then men? I think it is to do with upbringing, most mums tell their sons to respect other people whereas the daughters of men are told to not be open to anyone (maybe to protect their daughter as it's that father/daughter bond).



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11 Feb 2012, 3:43 pm

In my experiences, the amount of friendly males vs. friendly females I've met is about the same. So is the amount of mean ones.



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21 Feb 2012, 6:29 am

In Poland it's not usual for random people to greet on the street.
You greet them only if you know the person.
but I think generally girls were nicer to me than men.
Or just they were too shy to be rude (?)



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21 Feb 2012, 5:14 pm

I tend to get on with girls / women more than men [I am a man].


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22 Feb 2012, 11:34 am

As I understand it, women tend more to cliques than men, and can be called bitchy due to that. As a previous poster said, it could be that men are simply more straightforward. I've only had older people say hello to me in the street, almost exclusively old men. It might me generational.

I'm from North West England and wouldn't say I have noticed particular friendliness, but that's what I grew up with. People seemed friendly in the Lake District, at ant National Trust place, and in Yorkshire, but I haven't really examined it. I don know, that when I have been to London, people generally have seemed more detached/businesslike. Other than the old men in the street, I have not noticed a particular bias, but would say that younger females act guarded if their 'space' is invaded by a new female.



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22 Feb 2012, 11:46 am

Men just want to look at your boobs more. All there is to it. ;)



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22 Feb 2012, 6:41 pm

Not in my experience. Women have always been much, much nicer to me than men have. Generally people around here don't say hello to random people on the street in any case. But women are almost always very friendly to me if they're working a cash I'm paying at or other semi-social encounters


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22 Feb 2012, 6:44 pm

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Not in my experience. Women have always been much, much nicer to me than men have.


So you don't try and jump them then?

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22 Feb 2012, 7:13 pm

I'm going to go with no.

As people with aspergers have social problems, they seem to gravitate to the opposite sex. Why? Because they're not treated as a threat and a sexual competitor and the lack of these games makes them easier to relate to.

From my experience, the answer is no. I've met some bloody horrible men in my life. It's about 50/50.



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24 Feb 2012, 3:08 am

Women dont wave as much as that could be considered flirting or something, I remember hearing of - what the othes here said.

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What I find interesting, though, is how people sometimes spontaneously talk to me and my friends in public. A few months ago, we were on a train, and we were talking about American foreign policy (now, that might have asked for a response as it was a random Dutch train). Suddenly, a well-dressed Arab or Persian man emerged from the seats behind us and started talking to us about how Al Qaeda did not exist and how everything terrorism-related was actually a false-flag operation by the CIA. That was his message, and we were discussing a somewhat related subject.

Long story short, though, greeting and spontaneously starting a discussion seems to me to have to do more with their culture, mindset, location and relevant interests.


LOL. 1. The dude is right, there wa a BBC documentary where they explained how Al-Qaeda = general term to anti-US resistance in Iraq/Afghanistan and i could see something like that on chicago buses where people get into random political discussions.


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06 Mar 2012, 5:40 am

Hmm I'm not sure but I think it varies by an individual's situation. In my experience, girls have been both more cruel and more kind to me than guys. As a "frumpy" female, I usually am not coveted by men for my appearance and since many men's friendships are based around interests or activities and I am not interested at all in sports or most other "guy" hobbies they may say "hi" but I really dont have any close guy friends at the moment (outside of my boyfriend, if that counts).

Girls on the other hand can be more compassionate to people who are "different". Unfortunately, the mean ones are also highly more verbally assaultive. since I freeze up when verbally attacked I cant defend much against wit based attacks. I'm not the type of aspie that's unemotional and am in fact very emotional and am able to confide my feelings in and vice versa other girls and so that aspect I have going for me with the female friendliness.



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06 Mar 2012, 7:50 am

It's my experience (western europe) that taller/stronger persons are more likely to say "hello" then shorter/weaker persons? This "rule" seems to apply to men/women, natives/immigrants, etc?



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06 Mar 2012, 8:24 am

Women tend to have what is called a "b***h shield" up at most times, which leads them coming off as unfriendly. Add to it that women do not face the same risks as a man, a man being rude to someone risks having the s**t kicked out of him, a woman being rude to someone does not risk the same thing. Women are raised with the self-entitlement complex that says "I can say whatever I want without there being consequences that matter".



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06 Mar 2012, 11:17 am

TM wrote:
Women tend to have what is called a "b***h shield" up at most times, which leads them coming off as unfriendly. Add to it that women do not face the same risks as a man, a man being rude to someone risks having the sh** kicked out of him, a woman being rude to someone does not risk the same thing. Women are raised with the self-entitlement complex that says "I can say whatever I want without there being consequences that matter".
I do not think that your assessment actually true?